5 yera old son that cries

Ashley - posted on 07/08/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 5 year old son names Josh that is starting K this year. He has been in daycare since he was 9 mo old. He cries over EVERYTHING. Here is an example: He tells me that he wants something in a store, cookies, I pick them up and then he starts to cry saying he does not want them. When I get them, the whole time I am paing for them his is screaming. He of course wants them later. He does this with everything. I do not spoil him (that I am aware of) I discipline him, ext. I need so kind of advice on what to do. This mommy is about to go crazy.

Thanks for any feed back/ advie you can give.


PS. He is usualy fine with everyone else.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/14/2011




I would say he's testing limits here. How many times can he get mommy to do what he wants?

I agree with Theresa. My kids never pulled that in a store. They actually only had one or 2 "fits" in the store, and each was dealt with immediately.

What I'd do is put it back on the shelf. Tell him if he can't behave appropriately, you will not buy "specials". If he continues, leave the store. You may have to go back later and finish the shopping, but remove him from the situation.

Could it be that he is stressed in large areas such as a supermarket, or other places like that, and maybe this is his method to try to get you out faster? It's a thought...

I'd still do the simple thing first. If he wants something, then changes his mind, put it back on the shelf and walk away. If he changes his mind again, tell him "No, you already decided that you didn't really want them."

Teresa - posted on 07/08/2011




My seven year old will tell me he wants something while we are shopping and if it is ok with me, I'll get it. I've never had to deal with him crying saying he doesn't want it when I get it though. i was wondering, no judging whatsoever, why do you get it when he cries not wanting it? Maybe, when he does that and you put it back, then later at home when you don't have it he will begin to learn the consequences. If it is an item we don't normally by for our son, I tell him, we'll try it, but that is the only new thing he can get to try. At 5 he wanted everything, of course, but he knew about the "one thing rule". It worked in every store. He was allowed to pick one thing. It taught him how to shop because he would put one thing back if he saw something else he wanted. I don't know if this helps, I don't know what it means when your son starts crying because you ARE getting what he wants. About your PS, I call mom and my aunt the "marshmallows". They cave in an instant. I had to tell them NOT to give into him or "grandma time" would have to be limited. He would come back to us a totally different child. It would take about an hour for him to remember OUR rules. Now, we can get through Wal-MArt and not buy anything for him without any issues. He'll pout a little, he is only seven, but it doesn't last long. Hope something helps if only to know you are not alone. Kids DON'T come with instructions, or a HELP button.

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