5 yr old bullied?

Stephanie - posted on 11/15/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son is 5, in kindergarten. Lately he's been telling me about things the other kids at school do or say to him. For instance one child said he scribbles like a baby (which we've been working on) and one of his friends was twisting his arm on the bus and doing wrestling moves on my son. It seems to be a new story every other day and I know they are true because he tells me when they apologize. I've even seen one girl tackle him straight backwards and he hit his head on the deck. 2 different times in one day. He tried to be strong and even hid so the other parents/kids wouldn't see him. It breaks my heart to see him trying to be so strong and good and have all these things happen to him.
He's a social boy and gets along with the other kids. He's been invited to b-day parties and I've talked to his teacher about it. She might not know though because he would probably hide if he was trying not to cry. What can we do to get the kids to quit picking on him? I know it's normal for kids to say things or do things but at the same time I want to teach Kaiden how to stop them from happening. I've told him to tell them that those things hurt or in the case of the scribbing that he tries his best and that's all that matters. It doesn't seem to make a difference.
I don't think he's being "bullied" per say. These people are supposed to be his friends. How do I get him to stand up for himself and make himself heard with out being overly aggressive? Have any of you done something that worked for your child?


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Kim - posted on 11/18/2010




Hi.. My names Kim and hearing this story completely breaks my heart. My soon to be 4 yr old (next week actually) is the bully in the class. I'm having problems with him trying to focus and keep his hands to himself. I'm trying so hard to get him to stop. Some days are so much better then others. I can't really help and I'm sorry cause it's a little different coming from a parent who's child gets the bullying. It breaks my heart even more. I literally work with him every day.

I do agree with the role playing though. I'm trying that with my son and its pretty good. I pretend when he hits me to cry and tell him it hurts when he does that. It actually backfired a little bit because he started crying histerically thinking he hurt his mommy. LOL but try the role playing in opposite scenarios. It might just work. Good luck..

Sherri - posted on 11/18/2010




Role play with him. I did this with my oldest. Sometimes they just don't know other options. So come up with a ton of different scenarios and then show him different ways he could react to different things. His best advocate in all of this is his TEACHERS you really need to be teaching him to go to an adult in charge.

Our school had a ZERO tolerance for bulling and can be done anonymously. First offense is an automatic suspension from school.

Kristin - posted on 11/17/2010




We've told our kindergartner to tell the kids that he is not going to play that way and will play something else with them. If it continues, he is to tell the school yard adults about it and go do something else. If it continues or shifts to something else, he is to talk to his teacher. But most of all, he is to clearly state what he doesn't like and to walk away.

It has helped with most of the kids, but there are a couple of them that just don't quite get it.

Candy - posted on 11/16/2010




It is really hard. You cant be there and if he want tell anyone it want get any better. He has to understand the teacher is suppose to be there to help him. He has to learn to tell so it doesnt get out of hand. He has to get a thicker skin to. It only gets worse. I really wish I knew what to tell you . God bless and good luck.

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