6 year old with social anxiety.

Kelly - posted on 01/23/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




My son gets absolutely terrified when I take him to social outings. He has been in cub scouts for months now and is still terrified to go in. He does eventually but will not leave my side, nor will he talk to anyone. He also does this when I take him to a friends house. I guess I just need to know if this is something he will grow out of or should I be looking into professional help.


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Jordan - posted on 11/16/2013




i have a seven year old little boy who is so wonderful! until he is faced with even the slightest social confrontation...he hides from family and friends and it takes him at least a half hour to "warm up" . He hasn't grown out of it, in fact if anything it is getting worse...he has been enrolled in martial arts...we pushed him a bit into baseball and recently has returned to martial arts...I am wathcing him closely...i will give him till 8 then therapy if things don't improve for him....poor kiddo

Michelle - posted on 03/13/2010




I would definately go seek professional help. My son was diagnosed with anxiety, he has been in therapy for a year and it's done wonders. It's a complete 360. Please look for a book called "Taming your Worry Dragons". The therapy my son is on is situational therapy where he learns to identify is feelings and how to manage them as they happen. He was never on any drugs and we as a family learned how to help him in situations that stress him out. He is doing better in school and has real relationships with his peers.

Rebecca - posted on 03/07/2010




for so extreme a reaction, i would get professional help.... probably psychological...

T - posted on 03/07/2010




This sounds exactly like my 6 year old son. He is in cub scouts, too. We thought that would be good for him, but he doesn't talk to anyone. Anytime we enroll him in extracurricular activites (Which he asks to be a part of), he seems to be the only one who doesn't follow directions or does not talk with the others. He completely broke down yesterday when I took him to a classmate's birthday party. He didn't want to look at anyone, didn't want to say hi to anyone, he was so upset. This is heartbreaking for us. At home, he is happy, fun-loving, and even very funny. If you take him on anything social, he is completely different. He doesn't have trouble academically, only socially.

We are considering social skills therapy. Are there any moms out there who have done that, and have you seen positive results?

Kristina - posted on 01/23/2009




My son is 12yrs old and has social anxiety and we do therapy and meds. which is what works best for us at this time. I'm hoping that as time goes on we will be able to stop the meds. I know that it is hard to have him cling to you at social events but be patient with him he will get comfortable with group settings eventaully. Getting involed in something together will help. I do recommend therapy because the sooner you start the faster he will learn how to calm himself. Good Luck!

Brittany - posted on 01/23/2009




I was a lot like that when I was a child, I remember being terrified of anything and everything, and was like this for sometime.  One thing that brought me way out of my shell was taking Karate classes with my Dad.  I had done sports ( been forced into sports ) and such before this but taking along side my Dad really helped, it brought us closer together, and he was always there when or if I needed him.  Also Karate, if you have a good teacher teaches you so many things, self respect, courage, intergy, the list goes on and on, it really helped to build me up in so many ways I can't even begain to explain.  I know it sounds a little crazy and far out there, but from me as a mom that use to be a kid like that, that is what made me who I am today, and now I have to say there isn't  to many things I am afraid of, and I plan on using the life skills that they taught me to raise my children to be strong, not so scared of things people.  Good luck in what ever you choose, things will work out I assure you, just stay on top of it, and remember not to get mad at him when he acts like this, that is what my parents use to do a big % of the time which made every situation that much worse.

Nikkie - posted on 01/23/2009




I wuld go see a professional, or at least talk to his pediatrition. He obviously has some anxiety and it would benefit him to help him get over it.

Danielle - posted on 01/23/2009




my son is 7 and we are going through a lot of this, after we go to big events like the holidays the next day he gets physically ill for the first half of the day. I decided to take him in because with this and a combination of other things i thought he was OCD. They sent him to a therapist and he was NOT diagnosed with OCD however he told be a small % of kids just come into this world scared, and my son is one of them, We are going to start weekly therapy to help him learn how to deal with anxiety. I would suggest this because the sooner he learns to deal with it the better he can later in life, and they will also work with you on how to help him out.

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