7 yr old daughter does not want to sleep in her room.

Denise - posted on 12/10/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




Suddenly my daughter does not like sleeping in her room. She wakes in the night with bad dreams or visions. We put a 40 watt night light on & left all bedroom doors open, but it is not working. Is this a phase, need for attention or is her imagination getting the best of her?


Lissa - posted on 12/11/2010




Since this has come on suddenly I would suggest she is worried or upset about something. Think through the things that have been going on with your family and at school. Talk to her about it, make her feel safe and secure and get to the root of the problem. I would also talk to her school and see if anything has happened there.

Candy - posted on 12/11/2010




She may not be to old for monster spray. I take a can of air freshner and wrap contact paper around it. I write on it monster spray and spray every were she wants me too. Try a dream catcher hanging up too. If she believes it will catch the bad dreams it just might. She also could be going through something stressful for her. Find out if anything is bothering her. Kids picking on her at school,losing teeth,school work.etc.Good luck

Pebbles - posted on 12/10/2010




hey denise,
My daughter is 5 and she gets bad dreams ocasionally but she stays in her room. did u try playing music that she may like when she goes to bed? I do that when she has a hard time falling back asleep or even then going to sleep.


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Luvenia - posted on 12/14/2010




Well mother, I am unsure as to if you are religous or not, but if so, you could try praying with your child prior to bed and assuring the child of the words they pray. If not religous, then be sure she isn't watching scary movies for a while and try showing her how brave mommy is and how she has to naturally be brave because of mommy's inner bravery. Try a bed time joyous story at bed and find an activity with her daily or several times weekly that helps her fatigue to come at night. After dinner, be sure she bathes in order to help with relaxation and do a runthrough of the room with her, but have a bold and brave attitude so she will know and feel that mommy will always protect her but that she is alright in her own bedroom in her own home. And a last suggestion would be if all else fails, offer to spend the night in her room but just stay until she falls asleep and after a few weeks she should be fine.

Sylvia - posted on 12/13/2010




Could be lots of things. Nightmares (has she read any scary books or seen any scary movies recently?), some kind of upset at school, growing pains ...

If it were me, I'd let her sleep in the big bed for a while until she gets tired of that and wants to go back in her own bed. But my 8-year-old slept with us full time until she was 4.5 because we only had one bedroom, so don't go by me ;^)

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