8 year old son being beat up by 4 year old neighbor

Sheryl - posted on 10/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Two neighborhood boys are always wanting to play with our son who is 8. They are 8 & 4. They are very athletic and tumble all over and get banged up and do not cry. Our son is not like that but he likes to play with them. The days usually end with him getting hurt - usually by the four year old. I've mentioned to my husband my concern about the long term affects of our son always coming home angry, crying and screaming-yelling back at the neighbor kids. I'm concerned he will be labeled a cry baby, a wimp and get beaten up a lot the older he gets. I was told not to worry about it. But I know I'm right. What should I do about it? Should I sever the relationship with these boys? The older brother is very gregarious and has all the neighborhood kids as friends because they all play the same way.

I've put my son in Tae Kwon Do so he can at least have some skills to defend himself when he's older. Today the four year old kicked him in the private and the older brother lied about how it was an accident. I'm so concerned for my sons current and future self esteem because of these boys. I'd appreciate knowing what others think about this situation and my options.


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/28/2013




The only thing I can say is that if he wants to play with those kids, he needs to learn to respond appropriately.

I have to ask about the most recent situation. You state the older child lied about the situation. Were you there? Did you witness it?

It is entirely possible that they were playing some sort of martial arts game, and the kid DID miss and accidentally kick your kid in the balls! I've raised 2 boys, anything is possible.

So, when he asks to go next time, you explain that if he comes home screaming, crying, and beaten up, he'll not be allowed to go again. But, if he does want to go, he needs to adjust his play to match theirs. Trust me, a 4 YO doesn't know how to "beat someone up". They know how to play, and if they were taught that rough play is ok, then whomever they play with better be prepared.

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