8 year old with a mouth??

Ashleigh - posted on 09/23/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I had my eight year old, Sierra, young and I think it made her very smart for her age and sometimes I think that she forgets that she is eight. Not very often, but sometimes it's almost like she gets lippy with me or my husband to purposely start fights or to see who is in charge maybe? I feel awful that I am getting frustrated with this. She's my first, I have other little problems with my other younger children but I feel like I'm going on uncharted ground with Sierra. I'm just looking for some opinions on how to handle this or some mommy's that have gone or are going through this now so I don't feel like my kid is the only one with a mouth. Thanks!


Nicole - posted on 09/23/2010




I agree...you have to put her in her place. Your daughter is at the age in where she is testing her limits, and although it may be hard for you, you may have to be as stern as possible with her. I have a 7 year old and every now and then she forgets that I am the mom and she is the daughter. She does see a lot of the children from her school talk to their moms in a certain manner so it confuses her. I hate yelling at her, or scolding her or even punishing her but I will do whatever I have to do to make sure that she turns out to be a well rounded child. She is my responsibility. You have to remember that being tough with her (not necessarily putting your hands on her) should help her remember that YOU are the boss. After you have put your foot down and she understands clearly that she can not continue to speak the way she does, just have a conversation with her and explain to her how you feel about the situatuion as well. This usually works with my daughter. Hope this helps a little. Good luck

Angie - posted on 09/23/2010




All you can do is put her in her place. When she begins acting inappropriately, stop her talking and send her to her room. Do not allow her to be the boss of your house - EVER. There is no reason for you to engage in an argument with her. When my children start that I tell them, "don't bother to argue with me because guess who always wins?" They always stop because they know the answer is Mom. It's good for you to take this seriously now because if she's driving you nuts now, imagine how it could be in 8 years!

Farrah - posted on 09/23/2010




I have a six year old little girl who has been through a fair share of experiences for her age, and she remembers them all. Unfortunately because of some of the situations that she has been involved in or heard about from people talking in front of her, she too has this side of her which is much older, much smarter, and much more than I can handle sometimes. We often repeat things like be a big girl/boy especially when there are younger siblings, as is the case with my daughter who has a six month old brother, so she is often confused and she questions me when I tell her to stop it with that tone, or the way she chooses to word her sentences. she replies but I am a big girl. I struggle with this daily from her and even her teacher at school has noticed that she picks up things very quickly (good and bad). I don't think that any child intentionally wants to get in trouble, but the solution I have found to kind of curtail this behavior is time outs and disciplines. I kindly remind her that if she wants to act like a big girl i will treat her like one.... she doesn't like when her privledges are taken away or when she can't go on playdates because of her actions. I have even stripped her room of everything but a bed and not given in to her crying it was like that for a whole week due to her telling me "she didn't feel like doing what I asked her to do" It was difficult to deal with but eventually she learned that there is a line i am the parent and she is the child. just glad to know i am not the only one going through it....!!!!


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Michelle - posted on 09/24/2010




7-8 is the age they really start trying to push for more independance it is also the time where we the mom start to know absolutely nothing. Children argue I am sure it is pre programmed into them at birth stay consistent don't back down and be the Parent not the friend that is my best advise. If you back down she has you and will continue. Don't fight with her if she does something that is considered wrong in your household give her a time out and walk away it only becomes a fight if you fight back.

Ciara - posted on 09/23/2010




I had my 9 1/2 yr old son very young and didnt have a good relationship with him for a long time but the last few years i've been trying to redeem myself and it seemed to work for a while and then his mouth started and now hes just bad.. Hes constantly speaking out of line or being mouthy to be mean or I dunno what and I try talking to him and everything.. nothing works, i finally had to threaten to send him to military school unless he doesnt get his attitude back on track..

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