Any suggestions!!!

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I just wanted to see if I could get any advice before school starts.... My oldest is 8 years old and going into the 3rd grade, problem is every year he is having trouble doing what he is supposed to do. He's constantly getting into trouble for not doing his work, talking back, name it he's done it. I've been in the principles office more than I can count. And the only answer he can give me of why he's acting the way he does is because he's bored... Any suggestions on what I can do because I don't think I can handle another year of the same thing.. especially since I now have three kids going in school full time..


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Nikki - posted on 08/19/2009




i had the same problem with my dtr she is 9 now i made sure i wrote a note to her teacher daily and sent it with her so she would be aware the i wanted to know everything that was going on i spoke to her teacher who actually suggested it we would seal the note in an envelope and some days all it would say was good day bad day or a homework link she had to do also at her school they had weekly homework not daily she would have to do 2 pages a night and i would check them to make sure they were done and done right. if she finished early i had a workbook she use that went along with her class work or she could read but she had a time limit that she had to have as "homework time" and she couldn't watch tv until it was done. we use the time she got off the bus got home had a snack and then her time started. the important part is that they know you are watching what is going on at school and communication with the teacher and if there is a problem in class you can adress it that night and not let it elevate you will see a difference but you have to stick to it.

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Thanks for your help, I'm deffinately going to take these things into consideration and try them.... One mild stone I have to work out is the principle because we don't share the same views we bump heads alot and I do mean alot... I just hope this year we can actually come to an agreement and work together instead of against each other

Amanda - posted on 08/19/2009




My daughter wen through this too. She is now 9 and went through this in k and 1 grade. I ended up having them give her a extra school book that she could do after all her other work was done. I also bought a notebook and wrote to the teacher about how her behavior was at home, the teacher would write back about what it was like at school. We were all on the same page then and could discipline together. I even bought a workbook for her to take to school and do when she got bored, withthe understanding that it was only to be used after all other work was done. I hope that you are able to find something that works. I understand what you are going through and how hard it can be :)

Elysha - posted on 08/19/2009




I echo Carla's response. My youngest has ADHD and has the same symptoms, even while medicated. After diagnoses in 1st grade, the school put a really good plan together and constantly modify it as needed. They even had him change classrooms for each section like in high school.

Veronica - posted on 08/19/2009




Talk to the teachers -- find out what the curriculum is - ask what you can do to help your son enjoy school better - etc. If they are all going to be in school - that will give you more time to volunteer at the school - or what ever the teacher recommends.

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