TAMMY - posted on 11/18/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Im having problems with my 2yr old going to bed at night.It is a constant battle with this issue.Ill sit in the bedroom with her at 8pm to try to get her to go sleep.As soon as she is asleep i leave but then she is up at 10pm and will not go to sleep until 3am and i have to laydown with her HELP Im desperate?


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Paula - posted on 11/18/2009




Make sure the night time is the same routine every night...dinner fairly early around 5 or 6, then bathtime around 7. Lavender bathsoap or lavender lotion works to calm them down. Then maybe a bedtime snack (warm milk?). My son loved his milk warmed up a little bit. With some crackers maybe, nothing sweet or sugary. Then put him to bed close to the same time every night. He will get used to it soon and go to sleep on his own. My 4 1/2 yr old is adhd and he knows when bedtime is, usually without a struggle. Oh and a bedtime story helps settle them down too. Hope this helps!

Darlene - posted on 11/18/2009




I had twins six years ago, and they still to this day don't seem to require as much sleep as some of the other children I know. You have to find a schedule that works for you. For me it was lessening or removing nap time, and putting them to bed at say 9-9:30, then they would sleep thru more often. Hope this helps!

Stacy - posted on 11/18/2009




Be consistant, when you lay him in bed, read him a story, and tell him good night. The second time and any time after that just take him back to bed without saying anything. It may take several times and several nights, but it will work. I had to the same thing with my youngest boy. Maybe try letting her stay up a couple extra minutes. Does she take naps? If so this can be part of the problem. If she is napping to late, she wont want to sleep at night.

Melissa - posted on 11/18/2009




When she wakes up. I would simply tell her that it's bedtime and take her by the hand and put her back in bed. She will get up many, many times, but be persistant and consistant. When she get's out the 2nd time, I would say anything or make eye contact with her and just put her in the bed. Eventually after a while, she will understand that you are not budging and that this is not nap time, it is bedtime. But you have to be persistant and consistant. If you keep this up, it will get easier day by day. Best of luck!!

Stephanie - posted on 11/18/2009




The hard way is the only way I know. We had to put a gate up in front of my son's door when he was littler and would do that. He finally learned to go to bed when we put him in there. A warm bath with Lavender is also really good for calming them down before you put them in bed.

Try this:
1. Put a baby gate up in front of his door, do not take the gate down when you go in there. Just step over it.
2. Put him bed, tuck him in, tell him you love him and good night.
3. He WILL start screaming.
4. Put him back in bed (don't do it more than 3 times.)

He will learn. You will also find that he might entertain himself by sitting on the floor playing with his toys until he falls asleep. It really will help in the long run.

Keep us updated!!

Kacie - posted on 11/18/2009




How late in the day is she taking a nap? How late is she sleeping in till? i have a daycare kid that had the same problem. her mom would drop her off at 6 am and she would fall back asleep till 9am. then she would take a nap at noon till three. mom came to me and said she wouldnt fall asleep till 1 or 2 am. so i stopped letting her go back to sleep when she go to my house at 6 am. and i let her watch a movie at nap time ( she is also 2 years old) by the end of the day she was ready for bed at 7pm but mom kept her up till 8pm. once she got on an 8pm bed time we went back to a nap at 12 but just till 2pm. so it seemed to work very well. she is up at six nap at noon and bed by 8. I hope this helps i know not getting sleep can run you down so fast. good luck

Sharolett - posted on 11/18/2009




I have learned the hard way is the best! It would tear me up having to hear him scream he would get up I would go put him back. The hardest part is the screams and then you dont want to follow through with it. Its worth it but it does take time sometimes it takes an hour or longer but every night it gets easier. Before you put him down give him a nice warm bath! It helps! This may not work for you but I have tried everything and it helped me... Good luck! Stay strong. ;)

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