Bedtime Routine

User - posted on 03/15/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have a six year old who I struggle to put to bed every night. She is my first and I never established a productive bedtime routine for her. I can see that her lack of sleep and routine is effecting her school work and behavior. I am able to get the other two children to bed learning from my mistakes as I go but I feel it is to far gone with the 6 year old. Does anyone have any tips . Thanks for the support!

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Jennifer - posted on 03/17/2009

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Just stick to your guns. Nothing will work unless you stay consistant. Keep the same routine and bedtime every night, even on the weekends. She will get the message. Use earlier bedtime as a punishment for her behavior. My 8 year old goes to bed at 8 30pm every night. If he misbehaves in the morning or from being tired then I take 30 mins away that night. He hates it so he tries very hard to behave. I stick to my guns no matter how much he cries, screams or whatever. Just tell her the rules and thats it. I never stuck to anything and I have 4 kids. Recently, I took a parenting class and used what I learned. Its not easy, but you will see results if you don't waiver. Stay consistant and she'll know you mean business before long. You'll still have problems now and again but less than usual.

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It's never too late to take back control.  The same system for teaching a baby to go to bed will work for a young child too.  The key is consistency.  Set up a simple routine and at the end, put the child in her own bed.  Then if she gets up, put her back in her bed simply saying, "It's bedtime".  If she gets up again, put her back in her bed simply saying, "Bedtime".  If she gets up a third (or more) time(s), put her back in her bed without saying anything.  It will be hard in the beginning, but she will get it.  But the first time you allow her to get away with staying up or going into your bed, you'll be starting all over again.  Just stick to your guns and it should resolve itself.  Good Luck!

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Our son is a frequent flyer into our bed too!  If we let him fall asleep with us I usually bring him into his bed and he's pretty good about sleeping all night in there.  We always make sure the TV is off or he'll never fall asleep!  Like I said, he would stay up all night if he could!

User - posted on 03/15/2009

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She will lay down to go to sleep by herself but it has to be in my bed. She gets up a bunch of times so it is 9pm before she falls asleep. Also she likes to have the TV on.

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Hi Nicole!  I feel your pain.  I have an 8 year old that I should have been more strict with when he was younger.  He's such a night owl.  He doesn't have one strict bedtime because there's always something going on in the evening whether it is eating a late dinner or doing homework. 



I'm back in school and I'm always up late doing my schoolwork.  My husband stays up fairly late as well. 



What I do suggest with your older child is to try to pick a reasonable bedtime.  Maybe 1/2 hour before that read a book with her.  Does she like going to bed by herself when she does eventually go?  My son has an issue with falling asleep by himself so either myself or my husband will lay with him until he falls asleep. 



I guess you could say I'm in the same boat as you!  Why can't we just say, "Okay it's bedtime"...and they run off to their room and go to sleep??!!!"  Wishful thinking!!! 

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