Braking the news

Lisa - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I need some advice on how to brake the news of a death in the family. My son is 6 and was very close to his uncle.


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Carrie - posted on 09/09/2009




when my dad died last year & i had to tell my girls i found honesty was the best way i just told them that grandad had got very poorly & had died ( i then kinda explained wat death was but in a child friendly way) & that we wouldnt see him again but that nite we picked out a star for him & i explained to them that if they ever wanted to talk to grandad then they cud just look up xx wateva u do tho DONT tell him that he fell asleep & wont wake up as my friend dun thisd & her daughter still has trouble sleeping now xxx

Melissa - posted on 09/09/2009




Be honest with your son and be prepared for questions. Did his uncle die suddenly or was he sick? You might explain what happened and that because of this very sad event, the person's body stopped working. You may have to explain that "dying" or "dead" means that the body stopped working. Kids this young often have a hard time understanding that all people eventually die, and that it's final and they won't come back. So even after you've explained this, he may continue to ask where his uncle is. As frustrating as this can be, continue to calmly reiterate that the person has died and can't come back.

I am sorry about your loss and hope that this helps.

Faye - posted on 09/09/2009




oh this is a hard one.. Are you religious? if you are and have taught him some of your beleifs you could try that route...

If not or you dont want to go that route I would suggest telling him a story based around someone passing away but being happy with their new life/in a better place/something along those lines. Then letting him know that his uncle has gone to that place, its no good beatting around the bush for too long or you will find another family member might just let it slip before you have had chance.

Thats the best I can do in this situation im afraid I hope this helps. Good luck and blessings to you. xxx

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