Can you have post paradom depression 4 1/2 years after having a child?

Jenny - posted on 12/21/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I feel not very close to my daughter. It's to a point where I can't stand to be around her anymore. She whines all the time. She acts out. She is a perfect angel for her dad, but when I walk in the room she starts to whine and act up. When I am away at work, she is with grandma from 6pm to whenever her dad gets home, she will be very good girl, but if she is away when I get home she will start acting like a baby. Somedays I don't want to even come home from work. Is that just a phase I'm going through, or is it something worse. She never lets me be alone when I am at home. She bothers me all the time. I just go crazy and cannot find the paitience for her when she is around me. I have a good life and a good fiance. But I don't know why I feel this way, any suggestions on what to do?


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Alison - posted on 01/03/2010




I agree on both posts. My youngest will act up when he is wanting extra attetion. Worst way b/c it makes you irrritable but they don't know how the vocalize what they want. Sit down with some mommy/daughter time. Read, play, do her hair, nails...whatever she likes. Counseling is definately in order. In all likelyhood you could benefit from some anti depressants. There is no shame in them either!

Angie - posted on 12/27/2009




This is not postpartum depression. It sounds like, for some reason, you have a lot of resentment toward your daughter and she has picked up on that. It may be time for you to have some family counseling and find out why it is that you and your daughter have such a disconnect.

Ellen - posted on 12/21/2009




I definately have those days too where I just want to be left alone, but I have realized that on days when my kids are super whinny and acting up is because they want my attention. What I have done is try to give them some quality time (read a book, play with them, chase them, tickle them, etc) and even just 20 minutes can do a world of good and then they are fine by themselves. Plus I find that I'm usually in a better mood by the time we're done 'playing'. :)

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