child does not listen

Dixie - posted on 05/01/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




i've been having problems with my daughter not listening..... she just doesnt listen to me or follow any rules, its a repeated behavior and im startig to get worried now that shes about to start school


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I've stopped saying the same thing over and over. I now say it once, and then I say, "What did I just say?" My daughter tends to respond to that better, and even does what I've just told her to do! Miracles!!!!


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Stephanie - posted on 05/04/2010




I require eye contact from my son when I'm speaking to him, so when he was little I made him touch his finger to my nose (kids will look at where their finger is). Also, I don't repeat myself more than twice...I will say "Stop doing (fill in the blank)" the first time, if he doesn't stop I will say "I told you to stop doing (fill in the blank), do it again and you'll get (insert consequence here)" IF he continues with what he's been told not to do, I don't say a word, I just carry out the consequence & when he asks (what's that for) I make him tell me what it's for. He only gets 2 chances to correct himself before I correct him. I've been consistent with discipline his entire life (he's 8yo) so now when he's doing something wrong, I can tell him once to stop, & if he continues all I have to say is "do it again and see what happens." He knows a consequence is coming and that usually works, I rarely have to tell him twice or enforce a consequence anymore.

Sarah - posted on 05/04/2010




My daughter is the same ... I'm trying not too lose my patientence but it is very hard, she doesn't listen to me at all and it's even worse when I have to take her shopping with me, she will scream and shout if she doesn't get anything she wants (which 9/10 she don't) but I feel like a bad mum and really embarresed when she does it .... I feel all my self control has gone ... I don't think being sat at home all day every day helps the situation either as it's a constant circle with me ... School runs, housework, another school run, more housework, cooking, housework and then the dreaded fight with bedtime ... She will be fine in school, my daughter is brilliant in school but at home she is naughty ... Feel free to add me to facebook x

Donna - posted on 05/04/2010




My son is like that at home but hes not when hes at school. I panicked when he first started school because I thought he was going to be in trouble all of the time but I'm actually pleasantly surprised. He still does silly things like all others but hes fine. Don't worry I'm sure your daughter will be fine too.

Carrie - posted on 05/03/2010




you can try all of these really helpful suggestions...they didn't work for me....the only thing i found that worked for me was spanking....i don't do it very often, but my son knows he's in trouble when i threaten to...and i always follow through

Melanie - posted on 05/03/2010




When you ask her to do something get her to look at you and repeat it back to you to make sure she has listened. If that doesn't work give her an ultimatum if you do not do what I have asked this will happen (won't go to friends house this afternoon, turn off tv, loses favourite doll for the day etc). Do not threaten anything you are not willing to carry out.

The other important thing to remember to do is to praise the good things. I like the way you put your cup in the kitchen without me having to remind you that is such a big girl thing to do, thank you for doing what I asked when I asked it makes mummy happy when you do that. etc. The more you praise her for desired behaviour the more likely you are going to get it, because they get exactly what it is you want from them.

Angie - posted on 05/01/2010




Make sure that she is listening to you when you speak to her. Get down on her level and look her in the eye when you speak to her to make sure you have her attention. Little ones are easily distracted and need a little extra effort. Whatever you do, don't yell; she'll certainly learn to tune that out!

Valerie - posted on 05/01/2010




my son is doing the same thing. he'll be five in july. I'm a yeller so I'm trying to stop myself when he doesn't listen to me after i ask him once I go to him and get down to his eye level and ask him to stop doing what ever he's doing and tell him it's his last warning and if he still doesn't he goes to time out and i take something away that he loves to play with and he can't have it back until the next day and only if he listens. what really bothers me is that he has no problem listening to the babysitter. So i think he'll have no problems with school. it's like he trys to see how far he can push me i'm hoping it's a phase and it will end soon. I was talking to some one one day and they said they hated their childern from age 4-6 cause they never listened. LOL i thought he was trying to get more attention as he has a ten month old brother. he was such a sweet little boy until he turned four which was a month after his brother was born. But i am finding that taking stuff away for him that he likes is working, like no tv show or no radio(he loves music), no bike etc good luck

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