Falling asleep alone

Emma - posted on 08/08/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




We have recently decided to chuck out the cot and let our daughter sleep in the bottom bunk of the Bunkbed. This means our son gets the top bunk. Previously either myself or my husband would lie next to our son as he would fall asleep and then leave the room. Due to the height of the bed we feel reluctant to clamber down in the dark once Oli is asleep so he now has to learn how to fall asleep by himself.
I have tried a hot water bottle to keep him warm and snuggly, he listens to stories, he has a light and torch with him to read if he wants and he has recieved a toy as a reward for being such a Big Boy.
But every night he can't get to sleep. He comes down wanting the company. I don't know what more to try.

Can anyone give me any other ideas?


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Charity - posted on 08/15/2010




yeah i think the only way to break it is like i had to do with my daughter she was 4 and didnt want to sleep by herself. i made her go to bed. and if she got up i would take her back. it was hard because i felt like the bad guy but after a few nights she started staying in there and then i could say go to bed and she would. thats the only thing that worked for us. i tried everything.

Dara - posted on 08/14/2010




Try the Supernanny method. Every time he gets out of bed, lead him by the hand back to his bed and put him in. The first time, say goodnight to him again. Every subsequent time he gets out of bed, simply lead him back without speaking to him. Tuck him in and leave the room. I've seen it done, and it usually takes a few nights to get it to work, but eventually it does. Hope you figure it out!

Casey - posted on 08/14/2010




Stick to your guns he will eventually stop coming out of the bed. When he gets out put him right back in without speaking to him;if he asks a questions dont answer if he wants anything he dont get it no response, I seen it on Super Nanny & tried it on my two youngest & it worked after about 2 -3 nights of this they stopped & we havent had a problem since they are actually sleeping better.

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I cuddled with my oldest every night and when I decided it was time to stop the only thing that worked was tough love. I started by trying to read to her and leaving a night light on, then I tried rewards. None of it worked. So I decided to stop being nice about it. She got a few minutes to cuddle on the couch, then it was off to bed. If she got up I put her back in bed the first time and told her to stay there and go to sleep. The second time she got out of bed she got in trouble. Since then she will not leave her bed at night unless she has to use the bathroom or has a real problem. She didn't get damaged emotionally or anything and is still a total mamas girl. I learned from that not to have cuddle time in there bed.

Diane - posted on 08/11/2010




You can try lavender essential oil, one drop on each shoulder 1/2 hour before bedtime. Make sure it's therapeutic grade. Read a story together, rub his back like Chelsea said.

Chelsea - posted on 08/10/2010




Try giving him a back rub and singing him a song or two, and then leaving. It may take a few nights, but when he realizes that that is the way it's going to be from now on, he may be relaxed enough to fall asleep on his own.

Brandie - posted on 08/08/2010




I guess you can try the tough love thing. Put him in bed and tell him to stay there. If he gets up take him back. Eventually he will get the point and stay in bed. I had to do this with my son after we stayed a while with my mother because she used to let him sleep with her. While I was asleep and didn't know it. Good luck

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