Getting an 8 year old to not complain in the morning about getting dressed

Cathy - posted on 10/11/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




My daughter who just turned 8, doesn't ever want to get dressed in the morning. I have tried everything from laying out clothes the night before to giving her 2 choices. All the clothes feel "funny" to her, hates jeans and does NOT like to match.


Beth - posted on 10/11/2009




instead of jeans what about getting her some khakis or twill/cotton pants to wear and a couple of extra shirts of the style she hasn't complained about.

Pick the battles. I don't always like what my daughter is wearing either but as long as it is reasonable and appropriate to the weather then I figure I'm better off picking my battle. I will suggest to her that something else might be more appropriate if I'm not entirely happy with what she has chosen to wear - sometimes she just couldn't find anything else.

Mindi - posted on 10/11/2009




My daughter went through a time when she didn't like jeans either. She wore a lot of knit pants. She now wears jeans almost all the time (go figure!). She also had a time when some shirts were bothering her, so she wore undershirts. Now nothing seems to bother her. If I were you, I would figure out what clothes are comfortable for her and let her wear them all the time. It is likely this could be a phase, but either way, it's just not worth the headache in the morning.


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Cathy - posted on 10/11/2009




She says "i don't like the way my jeans feel between my legs" or "this shirt feels funny in my armpit". I just don't want her to wear sweatpants to school everyday.

Melanie - posted on 10/11/2009




My daughter (7.5) also is a quirky dresser, she likes to wear her clothes backfront, inside out, whatever happens to take her fancy. Recently I threatened to take her shopping in her pajamas, she liked the idea, I dropped it for a few minutes and the she got dressed. We often let her express herself. Although sometimes that is inappropriate and we talk to her about this and why you can't wear that outfit to this event. She often doesn't like it but usually concedes the point.

Have you explored with her exactly what she means by 'funny'. Are they too tight/baggy/itchy/feel the seams/types of clothes she prefers over others etc. This is one where you just have to talk to her about why we wear clothes eg. unlike cats/birds/dogs we don't have thick fur/hair/feathers over our body to keep us warm, talk about modesty, that clothes are an expression of who we are - we wear different clothes to make different statements and whatever else you can think of about why we wear clothes.

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