Half siblings 8 years apart!! How did your child react to it after the baby arrived?

Ashley - posted on 08/11/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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OK, so I am a little scared. I would like to know how other mothers have dealt with this type of situation themselves. I am 26 years old with a 7 year old daughter who will be 8 in December. I am currently pregnant and due one week after her birthday. My daughters father and I have been divorced for 2.5 years and I am remarried. My husband didn't have any children of his own and we decided to have one together. My daughter is really excited about her brother and is really looking forward to his arrival. My question is how did your children react to a half sibling and has anyone has this big of an age difference and how did it work out for you? My husband and I both worry that after her being an only child for 8 years that she will be upset by the change of us having to pay attention to someone else too. We have already discussed having her involved for as much of the birthing as possible (although we aren't going to have her in the room when we deliver, we think mommy in pain wouldn't be a good thing to have her around for) and making sure that we have some alone time as a family just the 3 of us and the baby before anyone else comes in the room so that she doesn't feel left out. We want to make the transition as easy as possible for her. She is a very sensitive child and since her father really isn't around much we don't want her to feel any less special. Any advice?

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Erin - posted on 08/11/2012

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My situation is similar....sort of. My kids (half siblings too) are only 4 years apart though. They really know how to grind each other's gears some days!
Anyways, my oldest often feels that I am giving special treatment to my youngest, when really he just needs more help with some things than she does. I make a point of having times that are just for her and me and she loves that. Sometimes we go do something. Sometimes we just hang out in her room and talk. I think it helps her still feel special.
I think if you make some time for just her to have your attention every so often, that will help a lot. Also, praise her when she is being an awesome big sister. Let her help you with the baby as much as you can. Try to nurture a relationship where she is caring for baby rather than competing. Give baby lots of love and snuggles together. Hope that helps!

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