hi so i have this child in my home daycare who seem to be almost bald ,when she started my daycare she have beautiful blond hair ,but now i notice that half of her hair is gone ,i ask the mom and she said that when she is drinking her milk she plays with her hair and twisted her hair then pull them out ,i ask her what is she doing about it she she she doesnt know what to do because its her way of comforting herself.i told her its abad habit and she need to do something about it ,bur she doesnt seem to be doing nothing ,because its a way of keeping the child calm.but the child is getting bald .i think i did my best as the care giver but if she dont care to do anything about it ,i will just mind my business .so i ignore the whole situation .today the child came to daycare with a big not in her hair. what do i do.


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Ariana - posted on 09/25/2013




Since the mom said she didn't know what to do maybe try to help her make a plan? Does she do this when you watch her? I know you explained about stopping her on the bottle, but does she ever tug at her hair when she is around you? Could she wear a hat to prevent her from touching her head? Or hold onto a doll with hair? Some other object she can fiddle with?

It's hard to stop a behavior but a little easier to change the behavior to something else. Try to talk to the Mom about it in terms of finding a solution that works for her at her house.

Of course you can only do so much, there's nothing wrong with making a suggestion.

Enna - posted on 09/19/2013




Do you have some ideas for her about what she can do? I think that would be the most useful thing you can do: help her come up with a solution. If the child is with you while mom is at work or whatever, then you probably have time where you could try something to stop her, so long as you and mom talk about it and agree.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/19/2013




Just out of curiosity, how do you KNOW exactly what mom is doing in reaction to this? You see one side of the story. You are not in their home, or at their doctor's appointments, so you actually don't KNOW that mom's done nothing.

Khari - posted on 09/19/2013




You can either call her mom and ask her if you can maybe comb it out or just leave it alone since the mom obviously doesn't care. I would give the mom suggestions like maybe buying her child a stuffed animal or something to replace her pulling her hair out. Maybe while the child is drinking her bottle she can hold her favorite blanket or stuffed animal in the hand that she pulls her hair out. This is not healthy for the child and I'm sure she doesn't want the child to take this habit on to her future.

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