how a mother react whenyou founf your son, liking girl things?


Jodi - posted on 08/08/2009




My son had a baby doll when he was 3. All he wanted was a doll. They had them at daycare, and he used to play in home corner with them and loved it. So I bought him one of his own.

He is now 12, and still sits down and will play with his little sister, whether its with her stuff, or his lego and cars. I don't have any issues with it whatsoever :) He is also good in school, is on several school sports teams, and does all the usual 12 year old boy stuff. I just see him as a healthy, well-adjusted kid!

He just made sure I don't ever tell his friends that he had a baby doll, or that he plays with his sisters toys with her, LOL :)


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Stefanie - posted on 08/17/2009




When we are out at the store and my 8 yr old son sees a girls toy that he wants I tell him that it is for girls and lets go down the boys section and pick out a toy. He usually finds something but I don't let up and don't buy it.

Ragan - posted on 08/14/2009




I had 3 girls and then 2 boys, so its inevitable in my house but I would have bought my boys dolls anyway, I think its healthy. My middle daughter loves legos' superheroes and transformers and would never be caught in It's funny that doesn't bother many people, but my son wearing my daughters dress shoes and carrying a purse does. It's a funny world.

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Define "girl things" and "boy things". LOL
We don't really buy into the gender stereotypes here. He can wear whatever he wants, play with whatever he wants.

Rhonda - posted on 08/14/2009




My son liked girl things when he was younger...he loved going to the little girls dept in a store just to touch and look at the pretty little dresses because of the lace and frills, but trust me, he out grew it...I think it's curiosity on their part.

Lori - posted on 08/14/2009




As a former preschool teacher, we would encourage the boys to play with all the toys. Allowing boys to nurture a doll, makes them more sensitive and prepares them for being Dad's one day. There is nothing wrong with boys and girls playing with gender stamped toys. We, as parents, are the ones that make our boys feel it's inappropriate! My son, now 23, grew up with 5 sisters. He knows how to braid hair, play barbies, etc...but he is very much a young man with a lovely girlfriend, but now he can braid her hair!! LOL

Wendy - posted on 08/14/2009




Ever since my son sould walk he would go to bed with a boy cabbage patch doll. He still plays with it once in a while. There is nothing wrong with a boy playing with girl toys, as long as it is appropriate.

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before i had a son, i thought it was weird that my sister in law let all three of her boys play with girl stuff. there are no girls in her family, so they had cars and other boys stuff but they also had barbie dolls and easy bake oven. it was what they wanted. now 16 years later. they are so normal just like any other boy. and my cute little niece loves boys toys, don't call her a princess.

Ciara - posted on 08/10/2009




My son likes girl things too.. he carrys around my old PINK cell phone like its his golden toy or something (he's 8).. its a little disturbing sometimes but I think he'll turn out just fine.. Girls play with boys stuff and so forth.. :)

Debbie - posted on 08/09/2009




I have 4 older girls and 2 younger boys, they always play with the girls things and still play with their friends who are girls things but the girls play with the boys things as well. Not a big deal at all. All kids do it and I have to say at first when my son had a doll my boyfriend was having a fit. I told him to get over it and leave our son alone. He no longer plays with the doll it was a security thing for him. They all go through it, even my daughters use to play with trucks and cars. I think parents that make a huge deal out of it are making a big deal out of nothing they give it up on their own.

Laura - posted on 08/08/2009




My son used to play with my friend's daughter's toys once in awhile, he is mainly all boy though, he'd much rather play with armies and cars and transformers and things like that. When he was younger around 2-3 he used to play with a neighbour's doll stroller. I didn't mind. He didn't play with dolls, just his stuffies. He used to play with his strollers (when he outgrew them) and push his stuffies around in it for awhile.

Liz - posted on 08/08/2009




OH gosh! My son plays with his sisters stuff all the time! He looks up to her so its like her stuff is better than his. I just make sure it is not out of hand and if it is just on occasion I think it is ok. Kids are curious and just want to play with whatever intrigues them, even if it is something that they maybe should not be playing with. I guess if it carried into later years I would then start to worry. Guess it depends on the ages as to how I would react. Hope this helps!

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