How do I get my 5 year old to quit whining??


Wendy - posted on 02/11/2009




I don't think you can!!!! :)

My daughter is 5 and she does the same thing. She also talks in a baby voice sometimes that drives me INSANE!!!

Lets hope it is a stage that they go through that they eventually outgrow....just hope it's sooner than later!

Carlie - posted on 11/30/2011




"Hail Mary......the Lord is with thee....." (laughing) I'm just kidding....!! Take a deep breath....look at your child...remind yourself how UTTERLY BEAUTIFUL your child is (you have to get to a happy place, right? right.)....then DISTRACT DISTRACT DISTRACT. then say some more hail mary's.....!! :)

You should also inform your child that whining is not necessary or acceptable. I hear that whining is a life-long thing dear.....might as well accept it....but you can make things easier. I would also ask your child to "speak without whining." "To ask nicely." However, keep in mind, that children usually whine when tired, hungry, bored....HENCE....DISTRACTION...until you can definately fix the above reasons....!! Hail Mary's........

Holly - posted on 02/13/2009




My five year old Faith WOULD not stop whining when she didn't get her way or wanted someone to do something for her. So it has taken a LONG time to get her out of it every time she whined I had to tell her that I have a big girl not a baby and she has pretty much given up on it but has been work.

Crystal - posted on 02/11/2009




When my kids whine I tell them that whining is a sign of being tired and I make them go lay down in their beds. They then go lay down until they can talk to me without whining.

Teresa - posted on 02/13/2009




I do/did what a lot of other posters said - I'd tell my kids, "I'm so sorry, honey, but mommy doesn't speak whine. Could you please talk to me in English so I can help you?"


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Shannintipton - posted on 12/25/2011




Did your five year old quit whining or are they still doing it.

Tenika - posted on 12/03/2011




I have an 8yr old that whines a lot.... Been happening ever since I had my baby boy who is 4 now... Thought it was just a phase but he whines and cries more than the 4 yr old.... Idk what to do about it!

Lissa - posted on 11/30/2011




Ooooo yeah. We have that problem with our 5 year old but it's not whining it's a voice he does that drives us batty. Has anyone seen that show on Nick called Pete or something (it's just a one name) of that obvious kid in the suspenders?! He does THAT voice all the time! I outlawed the show and will NOT respond to him if he uses that voice. I catch him whining in the voice when he is alone or playing with the dogs and I ask him to stop. It's an on going thing but I remind him that he will not get a response using that voice.

Julie - posted on 06/07/2011




Children do not communicate with wrods like - hungry - tired - headache so often they whine. Another reason to whine is to subtly say, "I missed you" or "I don't want you to leave me mommie, you are my whole world..."
Tell your child - arm around them and lovingly holding them - that you love them but cannot understand them when they whine. Give them a chance to talk in a normal voice. If they struggle with it, you do it for them for a sentence or two - they'll get the message.
Love them! ♥

DeEda - posted on 02/12/2009




You can give them a option to either talk to you in their big kids voice or mommy can't hear then until they do. It takes a bit for them to turn off the whining, but once they understand mom will still listen to the big kid voice they are just as happy and then show them to use other silly voices at other times, like telling a story, playing with toys, ect..

Jennifer - posted on 02/12/2009




Thanks for the help!  I love him dearly, but sometimes the whining just makes me nuts.  lol

Rebecca - posted on 02/12/2009




Well my son takes the cake in the whining department- he can whine for days in a row, even when he is in a good mood, and has no reason to whine...
Our house rule is that you can make any annoying whiney or crying sound you want, as long as it's in your room. I hate crying and I hate whining (obviously crying for something substantial is different). This always works, because he'll come out and declare himself to be better- and if he isn't he goes back until he is. The trick is to remember the rule. I have found that on some days, I haven't reminded him about the rule, and he will have antagonized me to no end, and all of the sudden, I remember that he is not allowed to make that sound unless he is in his room!
Also, I think he sometimes confuses me with his father, who tends to give in quite easily.

It's just hard sometimes to follow through on little things like that, but they make a huge difference, and then all of the sudden, they are out of that stage- you realize that you haven't begged them to stop whining in a few days or weeks...
My daughter is a peach of a girl, and that house rule worked great for her, when she was going through that stage, although I don't remember her whining nearly as much as Sam does...

Trish - posted on 02/12/2009




My 6 year old went thru this phase. She usually would whine when she wanted something. I told her that big girls don't whine and that if she continued to whine she would not get what she was asking for. Now if she starts using her whinny voice I just ask her what the rule is and she stops at once and says we don't get anything if we whine Hopefully this helps!

Sarah - posted on 02/12/2009




I have found with my four year old boy thats does whinge quite a fair bit to get what he wants.I ask him to talk to me properly if he wants me to listen.And if he wants something i simply say "ask me nicely" and he does so not so much wingeing now maybe you could give it a try if you havent already.

Bethany - posted on 02/11/2009




I do a similar thing to Brigitte, except I tell her I can't understand her when she whines. . .it works, but she still whines occasionally. My oldest 8 is the baby talker and I tell her to talk like a big kid LOL

It really is a phase though and I think all kids go through it.

Brigitte - posted on 02/11/2009




Quoting Jennifer:

How do I get my 5 year old to quit whining??

 had that problem with my daughter when she was 4.  The way I handled it was to tell Lily that I couldn't hear her when she was whining. I explained that I can only hear her when she talks in a normal voice and asks politely.  It took about a week but when she realized I was not hearng her, she stopped. I hope this helps.

Robyn - posted on 02/11/2009




I have a 5 year old and if she whines, I completely ignore her.  Sometimes I say, "is there some whiny noise in this house? I can't understand whining..." (in a joking voice) but i never make eye contact with her until she changes her tone and then, I give her my full attention.  That usually works!

Oh, I don't know if you've ever watched Little Britain (of course, my daughter has never seen it!)  But my husband and I used to make that annoying noise that the character Anne makes, to show Kinga how aweful whining sounds and that always got her to laugh and stop whining.


She still whines sometimes, but because she knows we won't give in, she's getting out of the stage quickly.

Best of luck!


Jini - posted on 02/11/2009




Oh Honey!  I had that issue with my now 7 yr old.  He was such a happy go lucky little baby, then he turned 4 and from then till now he has been whinny!  He is finally out of it.  I hate to say it but I think its a stage.  Maybe when they start to get feelings they don't know how to show them and they get frusterated and whine.  Good luck, try not to get too frusterated about it.

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