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How do I get my husband involved in keeping up the chores

Naomi - posted on 11/24/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




He works most nights and I work days, which is much like our parenting style! Our daughter is 6.5 yrs old now and still not rock solid in a chore routine. Is that "normal" ? How do I get my husband to keep her on task ? How are you ladies handling this issue?


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I let the chores go until he has to help out. Now in the case of my daughter he is very good about getting her to do stuff manly just because he doesn't want to do it himself. lol. & i do use sex as a way to get him to do the things i want.... i know so mad. lol

Stacy - posted on 11/29/2009




I have made a chore list, for my kids. I have 4, so they rotate, one week a kid will do a certain chore, and the next they switch. My husband and I use to work oposite shifts, and it was very hard. We deicovered if each of us took the time to do just one chore a day,that the house would stay pretty pickied up. We also had the kids pick up after themselves at this time. Make it a game for your daughter, reward her for the things she does. All my kids have chores now, and my youngest is 4. 6.5, there are alot of things she wants, have her start earning them.

Karen - posted on 11/28/2009




Good luck with this one. Once you get something that works, please let me know. I get absolutely no help from my husband. Drives me crazy!

Marge - posted on 11/26/2009




Have aq chat with him about how important consistancy is for kids, then decide on just ONE thing that he will assist with, and when the is running smoothly for a few months add another and so on...
Unfortunately hubby needs to also get int that routine and it will take a while. Good luck.

Karen - posted on 11/26/2009




It depends on your child. Mine is big on getting an allowance, so we tied it to her doing her chores without being asked. It's amazing how quickly she remembered to do her part - making her bed, clearing the table, setting the table, watering the outdoor plants. Now that school has started she has to prod us to get her lunch made the night before and get her clothes out for the next morning. My DH is pretty good about doing stuff around the house, but he is not as diligent as I am about it. I went away for a week in October and wrote out a daily chore list which my DD said she loved and wanted me to do it all the time because she loved getting to cross something off of her "to do" list each day. Maybe some combination of allowance and a to do list will help. Then you can see if she had to be reminded and somehow note it each day and that will tell you how much $$ she gets at the end of the week (we do $5 per week for a 6 y.o.) and she has been allowed to spend some of her allowance on what she wants as well as donating a little bit each week (a canned good for the food bank) and putting some in the bank.

April - posted on 11/26/2009




go through the routine with your husband how you would like him to show her and tell him to add his own style but just keep tothe chore this age it is hard to get them to do anything unless its fun...or funny

Jennifer - posted on 11/26/2009




Good luck with that one. My hubby of 6 years still does not work with me on keeping the kids on any type of schedule. If I work late, He will let them stay up till 11 on a school night!!!! Imagine trying to get them up and ready for school. Sometimes I can write a note with my expectations and about half the time, it is followed. When it comes to daddys, just start out very small. Plan for the worse, hope for the best. Good luck

Michelle - posted on 11/25/2009




I have made up a chore list that I leave out everyday. The kids know that they are expected to make their beds, clean their rooms, and I will add one additional chore to the list each day. One day it may be pick up the living room, or clean the bathroom (pick up the dirty clothes, hang up the towels, etc) or run the sweeper, but they know it has to be done. This way if their dad (or I) get lazy and don't stay on top of them to get their chores done they still know what needs to be done.

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