How do you get your child to remember what they did at school.

Michelle - posted on 01/27/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My daughter is 6 yrs old and in Grade 1. I try to ask her simple questions like did you have gym today and she tells me she does not remember. I try to break down the questions and ask at different times during the day. How do you get your child to tell you about their day at school.


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Jeanne - posted on 01/31/2010




It's not that she doesn't remember, she is just resisting! :)

When my daughter was 6 (and even younger), she would say "Mom! I have short term memory loss!" when I asked what she did in school. Then, I would try to get sneaky and ask "What was your favorite time at school?" "Recess" was the answer. Finally I did two things, sometimes three: 1) I would ask her close friends if I saw them, how THEIR days went (they always talked about stuff); 2) I would talk about my own day at work and 3) I might call a parent or two and ask about classroom activity, projects, homework, planned assignments, etc.

Now in 7th grade, she still doesn't reveal much but she now answers direct questions.

Sarah - posted on 01/27/2010




My boys do the same thing. I usually get a better response when I ask, "what is the coolest thing that happened today?" and "what is the lamest thing that happened today?". That usually gets them talking about things that are interesting to them or things that stood out more than, say, the boring math or spelling or something. Just a suggestion.

Aliree - posted on 01/27/2010




I find that asking specific things helps. Like How did you like the taco's you had today at school? I know what they ate by looking at there lunch menu. One the teachers sends out a weekly e-mail to fill parents in on what the kids are doing for the coming week. This helps because then I know specific things are happening on certain days and I can ask specific questions. I have three girls ages 15, 10 and 7 I find the older they get the more they remember...My 15 year old could talk my ear off about things while I have to ask my 7 year old about specific things or classes or teachers helpers. I am sure in time she will remember more.

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well i wouldn't worry too much about it, my one son takes forever to get to the car after school cause he's socializing. He's a real talkative guy lol. I always ask my kids how school was and i get a "eh, okay" most of the time. Kind of like they had just an average and nothing interesting happened. Maybe ask what kind of games they play at lunch time or ask about her friends instead? Try to talk more about the things she loves to do. sorry, don't know if I'm much help lol

Michelle - posted on 01/27/2010




No problems as far as I know, she loves to talk and she has started to take longer after school to get to the car.

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is she having problems at school with other kids? I would maybe just stop in one day and pick her up from class at the end of school and say hi to her teacher and just kind of casually ask how she's doing in school or if she's having any problems. Teachers don't always phone home if there is a problem and you end up finding out at the interviews.

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