how to make 8yo mind?

Miracle - posted on 12/15/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 8yo is very head strong. He refuses to do anything he is asked. He is mean, rude and very defiant. We have taken everything away, spanked, and literally come to our wits end. Had him tested for adhd, bipolar and other things, and he didn't have those. I'm about prayed out on this! Help!

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Barbara - posted on 12/20/2012

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I like the response that Shawnn gave. You do need to show them that when they respond to you likewise you will respond to them. I always believed that you get better result using honey rather than you know what. At 8 years old he should be responding to you better. Let him know the consequences if he does not listen and stick by them. It will be hard at first but it will be so rewarding once he starts to listen. This is not going to be easy so hang in there make sure your husband agrees with you and good luck.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/19/2012

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Treat them the way they are treating you. Miracle, I'm sure that your son likes you to do things for him, right? Things like take him places, buy him stuff, etc...so when he demands, you say no. He gets basics. Good nutrition, clothing to wear to school, appropriate outdoor gear for the season, a bed, blankets and pillow. Anything else is a luxury, and not necessary. When he can behave correctly, then he gets privileges. And I mean stand your ground. If you and your husband have take out, your son has a home fixed, nutritional meal, rather than the treat of take out. When you have somewhere to go, he can quietly accompany you without demanding anything. OLD SCHOOL.

Now, Sheila, why send her to your mothers? You know how you were raised, so get to it. When she gives you the "BLAH BLAH BLAH" deal, you do the same to her. When she demands, you deny. When she throws a fit, you video it, and put it on you tube. Why pass the buck to your parents? They've done their job, they raised you. Now you can raise your kid with their values.

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Miracle - posted on 02/04/2013

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He has been like this from day one. I've noticed it in my 5 year old as well but him I can handle. He can't stand to have to sit still.. haha.. I'm trying to start something new.

when I dropped my sons off this morning, I prayed over them and have decided that I'm going to change the way we do things. I refuse to let my sons dictate that I'm not mom.. I had to get in my sons face when he told me to "stop shoving me around" when all I did was slide by him with my hand on his back. I leaned over and plainly stated "had you moved over I would not have and to slide you over" then he go huffy and i huffed with him. So I told him before he got out of the car that tonight he would clean his room with no questions asked or he would hand over all of his games.

TIME TO TAKE OVER!!! :D Thank you all for GREAT responses!!!!

Sheila - posted on 12/18/2012

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My daughter is the same way except she screams at the top of her lungs for hours. I keep praying she will lose her voice but not happening. I too am at my wits end. I emptied her room and she thanked me for cleaning it. I talk to her and she says "what did you say, all I heard was blah blah blah. I'm ready to send her to my mom and give her a taste of old school parenting.

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