I have 10yr old daughter and 4 yr old daughter i need them to do there choures how can i do that?


Angie - posted on 01/26/2010




Chores are done before dinner is eaten (except doing dishes of course).

Kelly - posted on 01/26/2010




My children takes out the trash, cleans the kitchen at night when we get done eating supper and are always responsible for making up their beds in the morning before they leave for school and rooms are to always stay picked up!! I have never had any trouble setting these chores and them not do them..it is not an option..THEY WILL DO IT!! I don't believe in paying the kid's to do this stuff..they live in this house and they will have responsibilities as well as anyone else. My kid's may get rewarded often with for example going to do something they want to do to..like movies, skating, Chuck E Cheese, but I am teaching them responsibility. They will never learn anything later on in life if they don't have any responsibility..so I think you know what your kid's are probably capable of at their age..you know them better than we do...so the 4 yr .old just set something small but make it HER Job. My 6 yr. old cleans the table off while my 8 and 11 yr. old washes and dries the dishes...but I don't have problems with them NOT doing them ...cause if they didn't then they know they will have to deal with me..:-)


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Danielle - posted on 01/26/2010




My older kids (11 & 10) have to do homework and clean their room before they can play or have any free time. After dinner they do dishes and clean up the dining room before they can have tv time or computer time. We have a schedule that we try to follow as a guide. It really help, because they get used to a routine. Also, if they don't do their chores, they don't get their allowance. For the younger one, I would suggest the same thing. A daily routine is really the key.

Mardi - posted on 01/26/2010




i agree with not paying them as every time u want them to do anything they will have their hand out and that is not good especially as an adult, paying them is like a bribe,they need to learn responsibilities and everyone should clean up after themselves , INCLUDING THE FATHER. Daycare and schools make them clean upwhen they have finished playing or doing something and they do not pay them .i think you need to have more authority in your voice and follow through with whatever punishment you give them if they dont comply. good luck ;p30

Brooke - posted on 01/26/2010




They are old enough. For the younger one, it will be easier to get her to do it, but harder because you'll have to watch closely in the beginning. I have a 3 year old and a 10 year old. My 3 is counting, sorting, etc. so he LOVES to set the table. He also loves helping his older brother, so he empties the trash cans in the house and my older son takes the trash to the curb. My 10 year old loads the dishwasher at night, and cleans bathrooms, etc. on weekends. I do allowance as a total incentive with my 10 year old. He has a list of chores he knows he has to do and receives a weekly allowance for doing his chores. I don't hound him or get on him, but if they aren't done, he doesn't get paid. My youngest one thinks it's fun, so I don't have incentive for him yet.

Vivian - posted on 01/26/2010




Pick a time during the day when they will need to do chores. Develope a chart with rewards for completing the chores. Here is a webstie that can help; http://www.chorecharts.com. You might want to give the older one more chore responsibility, and lesson the load on the younger one but allow them to do certain chores together.

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okay this is a little out of my league as far as the age of the children but I think I might be able to offer some suggestion to you Rotanda. I have a 8 and 14 year old who both are lazy and would prefer not to clean anything. I start taking away things. Their time which is valuable to them even my 8 year old. Surprisingly enough he understands the consequences of his actions, however, he does try to push it. My 14 year old take away the television time or put her on restriction from candy. It's funny to me because she really starts freaking out. "Momma, no not the candy. I'll do it, I'll do it. I can't go without candy, Momma," she says. I laugh of course without her seeing me but sometimes I feel as though she is going to have a nervous break down if she can't get candy.

My little one I take away his game time and they will do whatever I want. True enough, we should not have to stupe to such levels but kids are smart these days. Smarter that we give them credit for, so we have to out smart them as best we can without letting them know we out smarted them.

I hope this helps you. You know what I mean!

Amy - posted on 01/26/2010





Both of your daughters are old enough to do chores, but the 10 yr old will be carrying a much bigger load, no doubt. My daughter is 5 and I have just instituted an allowance/ chore system to teach her responsibility and money management. If allowance isn't an option, then find something that motivates...TV time, computer time or even a special date with you or their dad. I made a chore chart with 4 daily chores...and since she is not fully reading, I put pictures of the chores so she will remember what they are. She gets to mark them off when she has done them and she gets $5 per week ($1 per year of age) on Friday (payday to the rest of the world too). Sometimes she doesn't want to do them and money isn't a big enough motivator...so I pull TV away until she has done her chores.

Hope that helps!


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