I have a 6yr. old and I need help PLEASE!!!

Amber - posted on 09/18/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My 6yr. old has been staying in trouble in school and I have tried everything I can think of. Most of the time he gets in trouble for talking and everyday he comes home with his color moved 2 or 3 times in one day. I have tried timeout, not letting friends come over, taking away tv, going to be 30 mins early, and even doing chours. I don't know what else to do and Nothing seems to be working.
He has also started talking back, yelling at me,and throwing fits at home. I never let him get away with any of it but everything that I am doing is not working.

Can anyone help me please???


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Amber - posted on 09/23/2010




I wanted to say thank you to everyone that has responded to help me. I went and talked to my sons teacher today and I learned that most of his talking is not during class. He is talking when lined up in the Hallways and in the Bathrooms. I know that I still need ot work with him on following the rules at school. But it also makes me feel a little bit better that I know now his talking is not keeping the other children from doing there work.

I am always willing to listen to any advice that anyone is willing to give me.

Thank you All very much!!!

Christy - posted on 09/22/2010




Time outs do not work for my child. I think if you try time outs and the behavior continues it is time to move on. Not letting friends come over might encourage chattiness in school. My little boy is a chatter box, too. But when people of "authority" are speaking he normally knows to be quiet. All young children are going to have their moments and I would like to think your teacher understand this, I would definitely speak with her about it. The worst punishment for my son is to send him to his room. He hates being in his room alone. Only for ten minutes because he is still young, but it seems to have been helping. Good luck! And don't forget, parenting doesn't come with instructions and EVERY child is different. This too shall pass, you are going through all the right steps!

Virginia - posted on 09/22/2010




I have problems with mine talking to much in class too. I know what you are going thru. You seemed to have tried everything, as I have tried all that as well. Talk to them, and find out if they are having trouble at school, or if something else is bothering them. IS your child very smart? They maybe very bored in school if so. Keep constant with the discipline. Make a reward system for when they don't get their color moved. Start with small things for one day and something big for the whole week. Use reward stickers, or a little more tv time for small things. If they go the whole week without being in trouble, give them a trip to the park, or maybe a movie, or a trip to the dollar store. You could also try a money jar, use a penny, nickel, dime, or quarter, no dollars. One for each day they're good at school, and let them put it in the jar. When they have enough, let them spend it on something they want that's acceptable in your home.

SiewYean - posted on 09/21/2010




May I suggest you need to truly understand why and what kind of trouble your kid is having in school ? Could it be due to some stress he is facing in school ? Young kids cannot verbalize their stress. One of the contributing factor may be the learning style. Is he more of a kinethetic learner but the teacher is expecting him to sit still and learn ? When he was being penalize, he just get the wrong reinforcement on his negative behavior.
Here is more information on kinethetic learner and the appropriate activities to get them to learn. http://www.kids-activities-learning-game...
Hope this is useful for you.

Donna - posted on 09/21/2010




I really dont know what to tell you about controlling yur sons school behavior, but at home if my children are going to act like 2 yr olds, they get treated like one. this includes getting a tap on the hand and saying BAD! ironically it works for me. have you tried to maybe keep it basic.

Amber - posted on 09/20/2010




Thank you all very much I am going to try talking to him and see if I can find out if there is a reason for his acting out and I am also going to try some of the things that you have suggested. Thank you again!

If you have anything else that may help please let me know.

Cassandra - posted on 09/20/2010




Well, he is acting out for some reason....you might want to double check on his daily environment.... is he being bullied at school? He is unhappy about something..... just make sure you keep the disipline up, he might be testing your boundaries... good luck

Kaye - posted on 09/20/2010




Maybe instead of using punishment, you should try encouragement. Make a chart that can track his progress, at first make very simple goals for him. Have him receive a prize for any positive attempts he makes. Prizes do not have to be money or toys- I would put slips of paper in a jar and have the kids pick one. The paper would say things like- pick dinner, extra tv or video game time, pick an activity for mommy and me, etc... You can also make a chart for the teacher to keep an hourly check on him. At the end of the day reward him for the hours he did well, and make goals to see if he can have more positive hours. This may also help you see when he has the most problems (like after lunch or quiet times). Then you and the teacher can trouble shoot, to see how to help him during these times. It is important that you praise him for even the smallest things, it helps to build his self-esteem. Though do not tolerate the aggressive behaviors, they will only get worse. Those behaviors will warrant negative consequences. Good luck!!

Candy - posted on 09/19/2010




Something is wrong. You have to get him to talk to you. You sound like you are doing everything right. He sounds like something is brothering him. Have you talk to his teacher? He may not like her/him. Or may be having problems. Kids this age have problems telling you what they feel and why. See if you can get him to open up.

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