I have son who wants to make friends at any cost

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My son is 9yrs old and he wants to make friends. The ones who he think are his friends are involving him in negative activities. I know that the things that he does he knows that they are wrong. He is willing to take the blame for anyone who he thinks that will be his friend. How do you deal with that?


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Jodi - posted on 09/28/2009




Try and involve him in some team sports, whether through a local club or through school. I have found that ideal for my son. It is a positive environment for them, and is a good way to develop positive relationships with other boys. If it is through school, it will put him in a situation where he is meeting with a different group of boys at school who he can bond with. Sport is also a great way to help boys build their confidence, particularly team sports.

Lissette - posted on 09/27/2009




He needs to be encouraged and gain some self confidence. He should know that he should not have to sacriface his good upbringing just for his friends. Find out if there is a boys' club near him or even a YMCA. Depending on your budget, place him in outside activities so that he can make friends while having fun at the same time. Check out your local church. They may be a youth group or a class that he may be able to grow spiritually and emotionally in a positive way.

I have my kids in Martial Arts so they made more friends there and gained more self confidence physically, mentally and emotionally.

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