I think my daughter has a bully. How do I know? Does anyone have any advice?

Jessica - posted on 09/23/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter just started first grade. In pre-school and in kindergarten she was only exposed to kids her age. Now she's in a bigger school, with older kids. There's a third grader who keeps bothering her. How do I know if he's bullying my daughter? Does anyone of any advice?


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Debbie - posted on 09/23/2009




Contact the school as soon as you can - they cannot do anything about it if they are not aware of any potential problem. As Sara said, they must have a bullying policy with guidelines and procedures they must follow - as a parent you are within your rights to see any copies of their policies (does the school have a website with their policies on it?). Yesterday evening my 10 yr old son informed me of a child in his class who was picking on him verbally by chanting silly songs - sounds minor but there is a much deeper story here I won't go into. My son asked him to stop; he didn't. I asked my son if this had only happened that day and he said 'No, he's been doing it since we went back to school'. This afternoon when I collected him from school I informed his teacher and the classroom assistant and they will sort it out. I know from last year it will be dealt with. I hope your child's school are as supportive as my childs. If they don't deal with it to your satisfaction take it higher - in the UK we can go to the Board of Governors and then the Local Education Authority if we have any grievance issue with our child's school. Whatever you do don't just leave it - I wouldn't want your daughter to go through what my son did.

Sara - posted on 09/23/2009




My son has had problems with bully's since he was in kindergarten. He is a bigger kid and has always been picked on. He wouldnt really talk to me after school and he would do what ever he could to stay home I finally got him to talk to me and tell me that someone was calling him fat. I contacted the school right away because most schools have a no bullying policy so I would definatly talk to her and watch her actions then once you know what is going on call her school and get it stopped right away. Good Luck

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