Is it normal for my 5 year old to have make believe friends?

Jennifer - posted on 11/28/2011 ( 42 moms have responded )

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My son talks about the characters from his favorite video games and says they are here sitting next to him. Is this normal? FYI he is an only child too

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User - posted on 01/30/2012

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PS If you have a chance, read the Tashi books by Barbara Fienberg. Your son may enjoy them too, although his friends may start to tell stories that are more and more outrageous too.

User - posted on 01/30/2012

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I have 5 children, and 3 of them have had "special friends". My fourth child's friends included several of the Stars Wars characters, although their personalities began to change as they visited our place more regularly. The boys have had such fun with their friends that, at one stage, the two boys without imaginery friends became quite jealous that they were missing out on such special friendships and asked if they could share the friendships also. Imaginery friends provide stimulation for the child, social practice, inclusion in conversation for the family and entertainment all around. Embrace these friends and include them in your family; they leave all too soon.

Rachell - posted on 12/12/2011

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My daughter is 5yo and she talks & plays with her imaginary friend. I find it cute. It is actually a very good sign. Great imaginations etc for later in life. My other 2 children did not have an imaginary friend. I guess is your child is able to play interact with other children and also parralel play aswell. I would not stress. I think it actually is more so to amuse your son as he is the only child. My older two kids are at school, leaving the younger one home to play by herslef moreso! Relax, mention it to your doc next time your there and I am sure they will say it is "normal" too.

Jennifer - posted on 12/11/2011

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so long as he's not blaming them for things he does or saying that they are telling him to do bad things...then its more then normal.

Heather - posted on 12/06/2011

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You're asking is this normal behavior? Ummmm...YEAH! Most kids have an imaginary friend they talk to and hang out with. There's nothing wrong with him having an active imagination. As his loving mommy there are 2 things you can do to show him you're cool with it and don't think he's weird. Play with him AND his imaginary friends..it'll open a whole new world for you! The other thing you can do is get him involved is groups where he can spend some time with other kids and make friends..playing with real people won't make the invisible ones disappear but it'll give him someone to play with that you can see. Enjoy it! Kids grow up fast and their imaginations fade away. Love it while you can =)

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Jennifer - posted on 01/30/2012

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Shawn you couldn't be more right. I have taken this approach recently too. Thanks for the comment.

Jennifer - posted on 01/30/2012

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Jena......really??? Are you seriously high ! I looked up "crystal children" and girl you are smoking something for sure



The Crystal children began to appear on the planet from about 1990-2010, although a few scouts came earlier. Their main purpose is to take us to the next level in our evolution and reveal to us our inner and higher power.



Sorry not a Scientologist nor am I crazy sorry.

Polly - posted on 12/12/2011

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My son developed "Pretend Friend" when he was 3. This kid stuck around for what seemed like forever! During a church sports related activity, when he was suppose to be playing outfield, he was out there driving his pretend tractor around! *Sigh*.... Pretend Friend left when my son turned 6.

So, I guess his make believe friend will leave when he no longer needs him.



Oh and my son (pictured here) will be 13 in 10 days! They grow up too fast.

Jeannine - posted on 12/05/2011

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Post a reply!my son has had imaginary friends for 3 years now. They are ALL super heros! They have sleepovers every night, n if im not carefully, I kill them off when I sit on the couch. Haha it is very normal, and even encouraged for the imagination!

Joan - posted on 12/05/2011

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My daughter, now 34yrs old and the youngest of 6 children had an imaginary friend for many years. She grew up completely normal. We used to talk about her "friend" often.After pursuing a career as a Paramedic for many years here, she now lives in Australia with her husband and son. Please dont worry Jennifer, he will be a fine young man.

Brenda - posted on 12/04/2011

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If it bothers you, why don't you gradually cut down his time watching them. You could even try subtituting other video or doing other activities with him outside. You might even consider getting him a pet if he does'nt have one.

Ume Ammara - posted on 12/04/2011

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its completely normal. my 5 1/2 yrs old son and he only one so far talks with the characters ,plays with them all the time...listen to those stories and enjoy them, they are very intersting :)

Lynn - posted on 12/04/2011

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I had an imaginary friend when I was little. I've read that it just means you have a good imagination, and is perfectly normal.

Leah - posted on 12/03/2011

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Its Perfectly normal! My daughter (also an only child) does exactly the same thing, I encourage her imagination.I have often listened to her speak to these characters and they sleep with her as well, this phase will pass.Imaginary friends are alot easier to clean up after also! haha

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/01/2011

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One thing I've found out during this rollercoaster that we call parenting: A sense of humor is a requirement! Especially if we can laugh at ourselves. My kids may have a strange sense of humor at times, but they make life fun.

Jennifer - posted on 11/30/2011

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Thank you very much for your advice Teresa I really appreciate hearing this it is a relief.

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I had imaginary sisters (we were triplets..).

My best friend tells the story of one of the days her kids were fighting over something. Finally she intervened and asked them to bring it to her. They were fighting over an INVISIBLE toy..... lol Kids are funny!

Jennifer - posted on 11/30/2011

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LOL Shawwn you have a great sense humor about this and you are very reassuring as well now that I think of it my sis had an imaginary friend too or maybe she faked it so she didn't have to play with me lol

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/30/2011

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I'd be more concerned if he wasn't talking to imaginary friends. Its a very, very normal part of growing up, and indicates that his imagination is strong!

Think for a second...you'll remember your imaginary friend too. My 17 year old still has conversations with his, but only at night when he's talking himself to sleep...LOL...

And just because we're adults, doesn't mean we don't still have them....Those are the ones we rant to when we're in the car all alone and one of our kids, or our hubby, or work gets on our nerves...LOL...I know I rant frequentlyLOL...and if ever asked, I'll say it's my big pink rabbit friend...

Lainy - posted on 11/30/2011

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My 7 & 4 yr olds have imaginary friend that they play with all the time! Even when they are playing together, they still involve their 'invisible' (as they call them) friends.. I think it's a totally normal part of development :)

Lissa - posted on 11/30/2011

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LOL our 5 year old named Jacob has a best imaginary friend named Jake Boogers! I was worried at first about a split personality type thing but he just "plays" with Boogers when he is ramping his monster trucks off the table :P LOL I think it's normal! I hope anyway!

Jennifer - posted on 11/29/2011

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Thank you Suzanne I am a worrier so sometimes I just really need that reassurance.

Suzanne - posted on 11/29/2011

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perfectly normal most if not all children have imaganary freinds at some point in their life

it is all part of working out socal relationships

Jennifer - posted on 11/29/2011

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Thank you for sharing your story with me hearing this is reassuring to me about my sons behavior.

Jodi - posted on 11/29/2011

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My daughter is six (almost 7) and still has a very interesting imagination like that. She was playing hangman with her stuffed toys the other day.....and the stuffed toys were winning. She really does have a wonderful relationship with them. She's had imaginary friends, she talks to herself (or probably imaginary people really) ALL the time. Just consider it creative play. It's certainly nothing to worry about :)

Becky - posted on 11/28/2011

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It's a very normal thing. In fact, I'd be more concerned if he didn't have imaginary friends at this age. It's a wonderful way for him to use his imagination. It also helps him figure out what to do in certain situations. All of my kids did it. In fact, my 5 year old is going through this right now. I sometimes laugh (to myself of course) as to some of the things she comes up with.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/28/2011

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No problem. I was worried about a lot of things with my first child. Luckily I had my mom around to reassure me that what she was doing was normal.

I used to have imaginary friends too. And an imaginary lion.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 11/28/2011

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It's completely normal. My 7 year old was making up imaginary friends until we had her baby sister. I think it's just exploring creativity and stuff.

My 7 year old still makes up stories in the car as well.

Jennifer - posted on 11/28/2011

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Thank you Jamie I appreciate hearing this I have only one child and sometimes I am a little unclear on whats a normal part of development and whats not

Jaime - posted on 11/28/2011

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Hi again Jennifer. My son doesnt say they are sitting next to him but I definitely hear him talking to characters from games and tv shows when he is playing. Imaginary friends and talking to them are normal behavior for little kids and it is their way of learning how to interact and have interpersonal relationships. It teaches them dialogue and conversating. Now if he has imaginary friends when he is 15 then that might be a problem lol

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