Is it okay if my boyfriend kept in contact with his single female friends?


Brandy - posted on 07/05/2009




Be real, it's one thing if they're both of your friends, it's a totally different story if it's "HIS" "FEMALE FRIENDS" That's a man's way of having a back up plan. As soon as me and my man got serious he had to cleanout his phone.


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Ashley - posted on 04/14/2013




He is just ur boyfriend. There is no commitment yet and u already have tryst/jealousy issues. Not a good sign it will work. Trust him and let him. Have his friends or don't trust him and let him go.

Angela - posted on 07/09/2009




My husband has single female friends and I have single male friends, but we are friends with them as a couple, and we have a very strong marriage, no secrets. It has to be something you agree on as a couple. If you aren't comfortable with it, then you and your boyfriend need to talk about it.

Phyllis - posted on 07/08/2009




How do YOU feel about it? This is what counts, you don't have to be politically correct. There is no wrong or right answer to your question. As women, we tend to want to appear to be big girls in the eyes of others and many times in doing so we dishonor our self by disowning our "TRUE" feelings Again I ask, WHAT and how do you feel?

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I would turn the tables on myself and think about how I'd feel if I'd had some friends before a relationship, entered into a relationship, and then my new boyfriend was unhappy that I was still friends with people who were my friends prior to the relationship. Personally, I don't see why he can't keep his friends. If there is a geniune concern, then you shouldn't be in the relationship. If he can't be trusted, having him not be friends with these people won't keep him accountable or prevent him from messing around with new people he meets. If he can be trusted, what's the problem?

Gayle - posted on 07/07/2009




My partner and I have been friends since we were children (him 2, me 5). We lived in different towns and so grew up with our own sets of friends. I'm not a girly girl so a lot of my friends are male. My Partner was a bit of a ladies man and a lot of his friends now are old girlfriends. I don't see the problem with it, but then again we have a history that spans nearly 30 years. You don't say if these girls are your friends too or if your partner is bringing them into your home to meet you? Talk to him. Tell him if you are feelling a little insecure. Have a party and ask all your friends and his to come and see how they mingle. You may make a new best friend or he may realise that his old friends don't fit with his life with you. I wouldn't make demands or ultimatums though.

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I think it's nice to be able to maintain lifelong friendships with people of the opposite sex, but obviously there's got to be a good level of trust in your relationship for this to work out for everyone.

Cathy - posted on 07/03/2009




I'd say only if he doesn't try to hide it from you, and if you aren't excluded from coming along. You guys are a couple and there should be no mistaking that.

Zakiyah - posted on 07/02/2009




First ask yourself some questions:

Are they friends of both of you?

Do you trust him?

Are they women in his past?

Is this comfortable for you?

I am currently engaged and I have male friends but they are friends of ours, he is aware of all contact which are social events amongst many friends, he trust me and he knows that I would never hurt him!!!!! Do you have male friends?

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