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My 4 year old has picked up whining from school, do you know any tips to get him to stop?


Michelle - posted on 10/17/2009




I tell them that whining children can not be heard by adults. If they want to be heard they need to talk without whining.

Laura - posted on 10/16/2009




When it started, I talked with her and explained that whining is not acceptable and will get her nowhere. In the beginning, I would tell her I could not hear her because of the whine in the room as a way of reminding her that it was unacceptable behavior. Now I pretend not to hear her when she whines. I ask her "what?" a couple of times until she asks/says it properly. If it is because I told her no for something, I just repeat myself and telling her the answer will not be changing.

Heather - posted on 10/16/2009




if they are whining about wanting something or going somewhere, no matter how hard it is to tell them no stay consistent and keep your ground. tell them that whining they will not get what they want. put them in a place that they can whin and tell them when they are finished they can come out. if they think you are playing then keep putting them there until they get the picture. thats what helped me with the whining stage.


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Chaya - posted on 07/27/2012




Tell him you're not going to listen to it, go to your room until you can stop whining. If you can tell me why you're whining, we'll address it, otherwise, go to your room

Jenny - posted on 02/18/2012




thank you soooo much this is driving me nuts with my youngest four year old trying to still act like a baby with talk and whine...ahhh enough to drive you mad.

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I simply tell my daughter that I can't understand a word she says and that when she starts talking in her normal voice again I'll be able to answer.

Sometimes it requires serious ignoring for a few minutes, but more often than not the whining will stop immediately. Whining = no attention; normal voice = attention.

Keeping consistent is the key though - and sometimes hard to do. Avoiding saying 'stop whining' or expressing negative feelings it is producing in you. A simple, neutral, 'I can't understand you, please speak in a normal voice' is non-judgmental and non-attention giving or taking.

I hope that made sense. Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 10/21/2009




I have the same problem with my 5 year old daughter. She doesn't really whine when she wants something, but she whines when she is tired or doesn't want to do something. I also try to tell her that I can't understand a word that she is saying and she'll sometimes try and change her voice. That is one thing that makes me crazy and I continue hoping that it's just a phase that she is going through.

Chantel - posted on 10/17/2009




I'm having the same problem with my 4 year old daughter. I'm going to try some of these suggestions!!!!!! Whining is driving me crazy lol :-)

Bonnie - posted on 10/16/2009




mine has got it from home i dont if its me or what but whenb u find out let me know its getting beyond a joke in my house hold lmao !

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