my 5 year old is suffering from abandonment issues..

Deana - posted on 08/11/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




my oldest son is suffering from abandonment issues due to me and his father recently seperating. and since we have seperated he hasnt called or came by to see our son, and that was over a month ago. what should i do.. how do i make him trust in people again? he wont even go into a room alone muchless sleep in his own bed..


Elizabeth - posted on 08/11/2009




thats tricky...just let him know that no matter what you and his father loves him, and that his father is probably just confused about the situation like he is and even if his father doesnt show back up just remember to keep letting your son know you will never walk away from him or not be there. My son went through that at two when his father walked out and still doesnt hear hardly anything about him, but after a lot of insisting that i wasn't going to do the same and showing him i mean't it he is now that trusting little kid he was always meant to be if for some reason it gets worse maybe try consueling i mean if he is in school talk to his guidance consuelor sometimes kids open up more with someone not so directly involve plus the G.C can give you some helpful tips and or advice on what to do


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Babyblueyezgrl2000 - posted on 09/04/2011




i am having the same problem w my 5 yr old daughter..she lost her bf my mother of a sudden heart attack and 8 mths later i left her dad cause he was getting vilent..there is a no contact order on her n me now and shes dealing with it hard! idk what to do either im hoping to find some answers here!!

Katy - posted on 08/12/2009




I would just let him know you love him, and will always be there for him, and let him be with you until he feels confident in it again. There's no harm in letting him stay wth you in bed, if that gives him the comfort he needs.

Theresa - posted on 08/12/2009




I would say just let your son know you love him and that you are there for him no matter what. And hopefully time heals all.

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