My 5 year old teacher is always sending a note home stating my child talks to much? What do I do?

Acquelyn - posted on 12/10/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )




I have a 5 year old and he LOVES TO TALK. You can leave the room and still hear him talking. What can I say, he is a talker. He talks about anything from his toys to mickey mouse clubhouse. It's like what-ever is going on in his little world, he wants everyone to know. Well this has become a problem at school. Mrs. Marshall his teacher sends a note home everyday stating he is talking too much. Well???????????????? How can I tell my 5 year old to stop talking, I mean I don't really want him to stop talking.

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Karen - posted on 12/12/2009




Just try to gently remind him that he should work extra hard and make sure he is quieter during class room timel. If you explain that sometimes other people can't pay attention to what they are doing if someone is talking he may quiet down. You will probably have to remind him everyday. I do not think this will stifle him.

Other than that I would not worry too much about it. My son got notes home nearly everyday during kindergarten for this or that, this year (1st grade) he has not had one negative report. Alot depends upon the teachers and whether they have realistic expectations of the kids.

Good luck!

Kekua - posted on 12/11/2009




First I say yay for you because most boys don't talk nearly as much as girls and the fact that your son talks a lot indicates that he has very good oral communications center(s) in his brain. So you're lucky for that. As for the talking in class that's pretty common though it's usually the girls doing it. That may be a reason why he's standing out to the teacher.
With that said, I second the recommendation to remind him as you drop him off that there should only be one voice in the class so be listening for teacher. Also maybe you, he, and teacher could together come up with some sort of signal to remind him when he gets to talking too much. Like maybe she can tap his earlobe or something, so that the other students aren't made aware but yet his attention is redirected to listening. When the child is a talker, a physical touch is much more effective than repeatedly saying listen listen listen listen stop talking stop talking stop talking etc...

Tavi - posted on 12/12/2009




justs talk to him and explain when it is the right time to talk,it may take a while but he will get it,lol

Angie - posted on 12/10/2009




It's okay for him to continue to talk as long as he's not disrupting the entire class. Just let him know that you love the fact that he likes to talk but remind him that there is a time a place for everything and talking during class isn't the appropriate time.

Thelma - posted on 12/12/2009




I agree wholeheartedly with the comments already made and I would also encourage a meeting with the teacher so that you two can come to an understanding about how to handle the child without causing future damage and repercussions. Also, try to temper the talking when he's around you by getting him to do assignments with little talking, etc.


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Leslie - posted on 12/10/2013




I have the exact same problem...and also my parents had the exact same problem with me. I talked and talked, I told strangers who my parents were, where we lived, from pre school all the way up to 8th grade... I don't know what happened after that I became shy. I understand the teacher and students. Its rude, it keeps others from focusing and listening and learning and I also understand how hard it is to sit there and be quiet! I don't know what to do... my parents didn't really do anything but have talks with me, I guess because my parents knew I was a talke. there isnt much else you can do but let them talk and hope they can hold it in until recess. I don't want to have to give her a lecture every single day but I have a feeling this is what its going to be like unless I just leave it alone and let her find other ways to talk our ears off.

User - posted on 09/24/2013




my son went through that but no matter what u need to teach them theres time and place to talk everyone has to learn this to ur kids should have learned this a while ago thats why the teacher is doing this cause she cant teach 20 or more kids while ur kid talks sooo show them its rude to talk when others r talking have quiet time at home u can make it a game lets see how long u can not talk give a treat for trying

Anna - posted on 09/24/2013




my daughter is exactley the same way!!!!! i cant get a word in she talks to everyone! I too am dealing with the same situation! what to do???

Jessica - posted on 12/11/2009




I have the same problem with my little girl and i have tried what the other moms have said and it has worked alittle i dont get notes every day saying she talks too much now it is everyother day so what i think is there 5 this is there first year of real school they will learn when to talk and when not to talk as long as its my little girl isnt picking on other kids or getting in serious trouble talking to much is the last thing on my mind, but i did find out that she is bored when she talks to much and the teacher just gives her another assignment or erases her work and has her do it again which i dont agree with

Paula - posted on 12/11/2009




I think the teacher has problems not your child. If I had a 5 year old that didnt talk I'd be more worried I'd speak to the teacher and try to find ways of helping him learn when to be quiet, however I get the impression that this is more the teachers problem and not your sons. Can you possibly ask for him to be put with another teacher to see if his can listen better. Or maybe he is very intelligent and needs extra things to occupy his time, sometimes if a child is bored they will chatter.

Rachael - posted on 12/11/2009




I would not worry about that to much he is only five and they do tend to talk a lot at that age, I have twin girls who are in the same class and they talk a lot amongst them selves and with other student. I use to get a note from the teacher all the time when they where in junior kindergarten about talking in class, you just have to let him know that its ok to talk just not wile class is in session unless he has permission from the teacher, it will be alright he will soon realize that all the other children are listen and he will do the same, don't worry he is only 5 and this is all new to him.

Barbara - posted on 12/10/2009




its hard for thoses little kids to get out of their own heads. you need to remind him not to talk when others are talking but hes 5 , my gus has a problem with touching everything i tried to remind him to keep his hands to himself when hes at school everyday right before i dropped him off, nicely and it seemed to help a bit....

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