My 5 year olds Attitude

Nicole - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 5 year old started school beginning of the year. He is doing very well at school. At home is a different story. He is the middle child. I am having trouble with him answering back rudly, punching his brothers for no reason, kicking doors, walls anthing he can kick or hit he will. Still draws on our walls with permanent texta. He is out of control at home, little angel at school. Anyone have any advice what i can do?



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Susan - posted on 10/08/2009

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Just a thought...my 7 year old daughter go to school and then comes how and is like a whole terror! She holds it in all day at school and gets home and explodes! btw..she is ADHD and we learned that is a lot of her problems. She is now on medication and doing better, but the temper tantrums and talking all the time never seem to quit. She is always on the go and never sits down long enough to even sit down and watch cartoons....sometimes i could just strangle her LOL...I know it will get easier with time but right now things are hard. Good Luck to you :-)

Claire - posted on 10/08/2009

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I have exactly the same problem, my 5 yr old boy is the youngest of three lads. At school he is perfect but at home its a different matter! One minute hes an angel and the next he switches to a little bratt. Its driving me nuts, I never had this problem with my other 2 boys, who are aged 11 and 14. There is quite a large age gap between them so sometimes I think this is the problem as he seems to be constantly striving for attention, problem is he goes about it the wrong way by hitting or agrovating them and this just puts them off doing anything with him, trying to explain this to him is so difficult. Then I also have the other side of the coin where they are teasing him, hes gets all irate and I feel like tearing my hair out!!!! I tried a behaviour chart and this seemed to work for a while but this soon became a novelty and no longer had the desired effect. Its not easy being a mum and It most definately does not come with a guidebook book lol

Lindsay - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Kerri:



Quoting Lindsay:

We do a reward system at home for good behavior as a I have a very sassy little 4 1/2 year old. We have a sheet of paper up on the fridge and before bed, we talk about the day and what was good and what could be worked on. If we feel that she had a good day, she gets a mark. Each mark counts as .50 and when they get to 20 marks, they get $10 to go to the store and pick out a toy or get a happy meal or something. As for bad behavior, we use warning, then time-out (minutes to age like Super Nanny), and if all else fails, they go to their room until they can behave correctly. I have found that since we started doing the chart on the fridge, the bad behavior usually stops at the warning because they don't want to lose the mark for the day by going to time-out. I have a 4 year old and a 3 year old and they tend to stay in competition over it because they don't want the other to get the prize before they get theirs. Hope this helps a little! =)





I love this idea!  We do counting to 3 and time-outs but I like how you turned your rewards system into a recap of the day.  That's awesome.  I have two boys, 3 and 5.  I feel like I'm constantly sending them into time-outs.






Lindsay,






How many time-outs warrants a bad day, just one, or does it depend on the nature of the behavior?  How strict are you, I mean?






If they are sent to their room, they will not receive a point that day for sure. If they have a time-out or two, it depends. Our point system has helped them learn to control their behavior and keep themselves accountable throughout the day. If they do their time-out, and I can see that they are actively trying to not fall into the same situation, I give them credit for that. Typically I'd say if they are in time-out more than 2 times in a day, they won't get their point. Before bed, we ask them if they think they earned the point or not. We don't just hand them out, they have to learn that things are earned. What they know is that no time-outs means you get a point. That's what they strive for. But ultimately, if they've had a time-out and behaved better throughout the remainder of the day, we give it to them. I hope this makes sense!

Libby - posted on 10/05/2009

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I have a 5 year girl who started school also this year. I have had that attitude too, I think it is a attention getter. I have three children and she is my first, I feel if I give her some mommy and me time she is a much happier and nicer to her siblings. I also give her tasks to do that make her feel helpful and like she has done something big. Have him perform a activity outside that would get his frustrations out or that might make him feel helpful. Libby

Kerri - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Lindsay:

We do a reward system at home for good behavior as a I have a very sassy little 4 1/2 year old. We have a sheet of paper up on the fridge and before bed, we talk about the day and what was good and what could be worked on. If we feel that she had a good day, she gets a mark. Each mark counts as .50 and when they get to 20 marks, they get $10 to go to the store and pick out a toy or get a happy meal or something. As for bad behavior, we use warning, then time-out (minutes to age like Super Nanny), and if all else fails, they go to their room until they can behave correctly. I have found that since we started doing the chart on the fridge, the bad behavior usually stops at the warning because they don't want to lose the mark for the day by going to time-out. I have a 4 year old and a 3 year old and they tend to stay in competition over it because they don't want the other to get the prize before they get theirs. Hope this helps a little! =)


I love this idea!  We do counting to 3 and time-outs but I like how you turned your rewards system into a recap of the day.  That's awesome.  I have two boys, 3 and 5.  I feel like I'm constantly sending them into time-outs.



Lindsay,



How many time-outs warrants a bad day, just one, or does it depend on the nature of the behavior?  How strict are you, I mean?

Lindsay - posted on 10/05/2009

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We do a reward system at home for good behavior as a I have a very sassy little 4 1/2 year old. We have a sheet of paper up on the fridge and before bed, we talk about the day and what was good and what could be worked on. If we feel that she had a good day, she gets a mark. Each mark counts as .50 and when they get to 20 marks, they get $10 to go to the store and pick out a toy or get a happy meal or something. As for bad behavior, we use warning, then time-out (minutes to age like Super Nanny), and if all else fails, they go to their room until they can behave correctly. I have found that since we started doing the chart on the fridge, the bad behavior usually stops at the warning because they don't want to lose the mark for the day by going to time-out. I have a 4 year old and a 3 year old and they tend to stay in competition over it because they don't want the other to get the prize before they get theirs. Hope this helps a little! =)

Destiny - posted on 10/05/2009

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kids are always better behaved for some body else, my daughter is and a "LIL MISS ATTITUDE" i brought a THINK ABOUT IT< MATT> and every time she braks one of her rules, ( we have 5, 1 for each year of her age) she spends 5 mins on her rug and is not alloud to get off or comunicate inb any form what so ever untill her time is up... unless it is to say a sincere apology. if she does not do that she then spend another minute.. altough it took two weeks to really take affect i have never seen such a dramatic improvement.. it has helped so much and i hope you can get some use from my idea,, good luck x

Patricia - posted on 10/05/2009

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My middle child is the same. He's 8 now and the rudeness really only started last year. In public he is an angel but at home he is terrible. Like Jeckel and hyde. And it got really bad. He's not kicking and pushing but he is very verbally aggressive. We started really setting rules and consequences and it has helped...let's wait to see if it continually improves.

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