my 7 year old has discovered his penis...

Annette - posted on 08/25/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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and he won't leave it alone. I've caught him on numerous occasions playing with it fully erect. I've talked to him i've punished him and now i don't know what to do please help.

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Gail - posted on 09/13/2009

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DONT PUNISH HIM!!! what did you punish him for? Its perfectly natural for a boy to do that. Just explain to him that he is to keep it private (in a private place) and explain to him that he must only touch it himself and not let anybody else touch it. Its healthy for boys to masterbate. I would be more inclined to worry if he didnt play with it.

Pnina - posted on 09/12/2009

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The real question you need to ask yourself is, "what took him so long?" lol

Both of my sons discovered themselves about the time they started potty training. In fact, that was a hint it was time to start with the younger one. Granted, the first time I saw my oldest son wake up "happy", I was horrified, but it is just normal blood flow that keeps the penis healthy, and they will have them whether they touch it or not. As stated before, the key is not to make him feel wrong about his body, or what he is feeling, but to let him know that some things, we do in private.

Laura - posted on 10/31/2017

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TO " USER "~~~kAYA and GAIL ``are very correct~~ ,,,condemning the body of an innocent boy ,is extremely wrong and harmful,,,i am a single mom of several boys up to age 11 yr old twins ... they all play nude in nature ( with several other single moms kids here ) on on secluded property in Tahiti,,it is warm here and we all say that clothing is not needed.for any of us.... we home-..school and organic garden,,and tree-houses and yoga and sports ...they all have erections a lot while playing ,or nursing ...that which is natural is certainly not condemned...we mos just tell ,them," how wonderful that you are feeling so happy " !! ~~ANY moms wish to communicate ,please PM

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/20/2014

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The appropriate response is "son, that is for your eyes only. Please do not do that in public, or in the front room. I understand that you are curious, and that it feels good, but you need to keep private things private. Please take it to your room."

Tana - posted on 09/13/2009

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I am with the other moms. Don't punish him! When he grows up, you don't want him to have weird issues, right? I told both of my boys it was ok to touch it, if he was alone in the bathroom or by himself in his room. The key for me, is that they need to understand that it is a private thing for them to do.

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Laura - posted on 02/14/2018

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Kaya i totally agree that punishing a child for being totally natural is very horrific and totally harmful and very damaging and can warp the child for life!! ~~ .RATHER TEACH HIM THAT THE BODY IS VERY BEAUTIFUL AND ACCEPTABLE AND THAT IT IS NATURAL AND NORMAL TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT THE GOOD FEELINGS OF ONES OWN BODY.. then he will NOT be saddled with shame ,guilt ,and anxiety...,perhaps for life..... hope all turns out with understanding and HEALING.... the best to you and yours

Laura - posted on 12/15/2017

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to Jessica ,mom,you seem way up-tight..... now, you can rest assured that both boys touch them-selves under their covers ,in their own beds.... and you relegating such to the bathroom makes it nasty potty stuff and having them feel guilt and shame shame ...so my advice is to let them know that masturbation is a normal thing to do , I have 6 minor kids so i know that is it normal and acceptable

Laura - posted on 11/18/2017

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if " touching it " is not evil as many religion teach,,,
...how can any mom be certain that her boy, does not do so under the covers in his bedroom...how do you know that his brother does not do that also...and what do you think that the consequences ,if any,should be for such...??~do we sometimes give innocent kids messages of "" unseemly conduct . very shameful...so they must hide in complete shame for doing something so so bad and nasty, and acquire great anxiety a great deal of their lives......,,this is a question for all moms...some moms even force their kids to not sleep nude.. and give them negative feelings concerning their bodies, instead of telling them that the body is beautiful,and NOT bad...again i ask all moms ...kids just natural love to be naked. as much as possible ,in the privacy of their home.. or in private nature....it is natural for them as they are innocent..many millions say that a nude family is a healthy family,both physically.,and mentally... moms out there ,what do you believe ??

Kaya - posted on 05/07/2014

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Don't punish him for things like that, he is growing and learning about what his body can do. Just tell him it's ok to do so but just keep things around there private. Punishing a child for a reason like that isn't right . Masturbation is totally natural.
My son Ashton did it when he was one years old. But he kept it private, now he's four and says he's to grown up I laugh lol. Remember don't punish him ok :) -kaya

User - posted on 02/20/2014

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omgoodness! I don't know what I would do... When I was little I was taught that masturbating was wrong, and I would get punished, and guess what... I'm not weird OR sexually repressed! I agree its natural to explore, but I am not comfortable with "self gratification"... I think of it like picking your nose and eating it... I say "stop it that's gross" and move on. I don't know what else to say... do your best and good luck!

Desiree - posted on 08/25/2009

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I don't think you should punish him for it, as this may cause serious problems later on. Just let him know it is okay for him to do it, but he needs to do it in private.

Sharron - posted on 08/25/2009

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O'k mom, punishing him. Stop and think girl we all been there. He does it because it feels good. Hell everyone does it. This is a phase he is going through he is fine. All children go through it give him some space. He is a normal kid!!!! Don't make him think there is something wrong with it, because then he will start judging his sexuallity. As a mom and a person who was in the nursing field this behavior in children is normal. Everyone discovers their private at sometime. I's o.k. another mom.

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I have a 5 yr. old that found his and I told him that is something you do in private when you are by yourself. I just didnt want him to grow up and think that it was a bad thing i just didnt want him to do it in front of me or his sister,,,,

Jessica - posted on 08/25/2009

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My youngest son (8) also likes putting his hands down his pants, anywhere and everywhere. I set boundaries. I told him that it was okay to touch himself, but the only place it could happen was in the bathroom with the door shut. I personally think it is ok for them to discover themselves, but in an appropriate place. Not in the bedroom, where he shares a room with his brother, outside playing, watching t.v., etc. I didn't want him to feel badly, but I felt he needed to know that there was an appropriate place for it. I have not seen him do anything in a long time. What goes on behind closed doors when he is alone.........Im not sure. Remember...they are boys....who turn into grown men...lol

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