My son aged 4,had his first fight at school should i be worried

Brenda - posted on 07/13/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




He got this new hair cut so he said this two boys were teasing him and that were the fight started,i'm afraid this could be start of many fights.


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Carla - posted on 07/20/2010




No kid wants to be made fun of! Everyone wants to be accepted. Boys, unfortunately, are sooo quick to take a swing at someone who they feel are putting them down.

He needs to know that there is always going to be someone who needs to put someone down to make themselves feel better. But he doesn't need to stoop to that level. Ask him if he likes his new haircut. If so, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks! We are all a little self-conscious and take to heart any criticism. Build him up, tell him he is smart, funny, good-looking. And, what did he accomplish hitting the boy? It didn't change the boy's mind about his haircut, and he got into trouble. 'Now, honey, how do you think you should handle this situation the next time it hapens?' He says 'walk away'. You say, 'very good' Keep re-enforcing this appropriate behavior.

We are given our children to mould. He is a little lump of clay that hasn't had much time to shape. Keep telling him over and over (like you tell him to pick up his dirty clothes) 'this is the way we handle situations'. And don't freak out, thinking he is going to fight forever. Just be consistent, be encouraging, and your little angel with his new hair cut will be fine ;)

God bless, honey!

Angie - posted on 07/20/2010




Don't let this make you believe that this is his first fight, but his last fight. Talk to him about how to appropriately deal with these situations. My son hit a kid who kept stealing his shoe in kindergarten and has never been in another fight - he'll be a senior in 1 month!

Myetta - posted on 07/19/2010




Don't take that to mean fights will continue to happen. Just talk to him about what his should do if a child teases him or starts pushing or hitting him. My son got into 1 fight in kindergarten and he's now going to 2nd grade and hasn't had a fight since. I think at some point every kid will get into an altercation weather it be physical or just verbal. But don't fret.

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