my son is in the first grade and he has belly aches everyday before school , he comes home just fine , but every morning he says he is sick, what should I do ?

Margie - posted on 11/06/2008 ( 17 moms have responded )

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he is 7 years old and in the first grade , every day he says he is sick and tries to stay home, I work from home, and told him I will be working , so It wont be fun , he insists he is sick , I send him anyway . He comes home just fine.... I spoke to the teacher and she says he is fine in school , Happy , has a lot of friends, does well. I am stumped . HELp

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Sheila - posted on 02/14/2009

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We had the same problem at the beginning of the the school year, my son is also in first grade. We finally found out there was a older boy on the bus that was being mean to him on the way to school. The bus driver let him switch his seat and we havn't had a problem with school days sickness again (unless it's real). So maybe it is unrelated to the classroom....

Krissy - posted on 02/12/2011

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I never understood it, but I used to feel sick before school. Maybe he needs an earlier bed time to get enough sleep, or up earlier to have some down time before beginning his day...

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Meme - posted on 06/17/2014

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I think this might be called separation anxiety disorder. Child doesn't like to leave the house. this could be due child attached to the mom, or feel unsafe due to new born, new house or new school.

Yadira - posted on 02/11/2011

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You should leave him one day with you but before ask his teacher for one day classwork so you can have him busy all day just like a school day and while he is working in his own work you can do your work that way he will find out that it is true that you are working when he is at school. I am a house wife and sometimes our sons don't believe that I do have a lot of work and they think I am doing nothing while they are are at school.

Ilene - posted on 02/10/2011

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Try chamamille (spelled it wrong, sorry) tea. It was great for my kids when they were nervous and it helped them sleep too.

Linda - posted on 02/10/2011

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I had the same issue in school at that age. Its anxiety. You replied that there is a pull out teacher he goes with that is loud and he said is mean. Contact the principal about this person ASAP. Let him/her know that you child is getting anxiety from having to be with this teacher and it must be corrected. You should also insist they provide an alternative teacher for whatever service this "mean teacher" is providing. Just because someone has been teaching for years, doesnt mean they are good at it. Too many people have tenure who shouldnt be dealing with children at all. Your son wants to stay home because it is a safe place. its disgusting that a teacher has caused him this much stress. Good luck!

Sara - posted on 11/08/2008

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My daughter did that to for a while it will eventually stop but try talking to him and see if maybe there is something or somebody that bothers him

Steph - posted on 11/07/2008

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i totally agree with kaytay also i have a 7yr old also that is now in 2nd grade, who also used to say he was sick, it wasn't everyday but it was a regular occurance so i sympathize with you, so much, i know how hard this is. what i did was contacted his teacher who said the same as you childs teacher that he has lots of friends and is really popular, i didnt like this answer from her so i went to the head who said that she would look into this for me, she also came up with the same response that the teacher did.i was getting quite frustrated by now as my son was like this for about 5 months before it stopped. i finally managed to find out what it was that was bothering him. firstly he hated the fact that i was not getting no quality time with him anymore, secondly, he was getting bullied which i had the school over, the bullying stopped, i spent quality time with him, and he finally settled down in school. now i know that when he has ''bellyache'' he is just missing me. hope that this can be off some help to you. GOOD LUCK. its not easy to get to the bottom of this. But it will get better hope its sooner rather than later.

Jessica - posted on 11/07/2008

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yeah i would suggest that u speak to the principal because maybe he is not the only one in the class that is having issues with this teacher.... or try talking to another partent of a child in his class bc i am sure if there is more then one complain they have to do something about. He is at a good age where learning should be fun and he should be enjoying!

Michelle - posted on 11/07/2008

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IF you really think its the teacher and if you have the option. If your school is large enough you can talk to the principal and have him moved to another 1st grade class but I wouldn't do that unless you absolutely think its the teacher. This might not even be an option if he goes to a smaller school. Just remember you do still have options. Best of luck to you.

Michelle - posted on 11/07/2008

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I don't want to scare you or anything but this happened to my daughter and after a couple days I sat her down and said that something must be bothering her and I can't fix it if she doesn't tell me I can't fix it. And she cried for a few minutes but told me there was a girl in 3rd grade that had punched her on the playground at recess and she was scared it was going to happen again. I reassured her it shouldn't happen again and that if it does she needs to tell a teacher cause she has the right to be at school. And then I spoke with her teacher and the guideance counsler and they did discuss bullying at school.

Margie - posted on 11/07/2008

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thank you so much for all the advice!!! I spoke with his teacher today , she said he acts fine in school very happy , has lots of friends , but he does go with a teacher he doesnt like. he says she is mean , and yells, The teacher said he is right she is loud, I told him he couldnt go to his friends house today if he is "SICK " he went to school , but it is every day , except for the weekends, I already contacted the teacher, what more can I do ?????

Jill - posted on 11/06/2008

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I agree with Kaytay. I would try to look into the root of the problem by asking as many questions as possible when he comes home from school. And don't let him get away with yes/no answers push him to describe as much of his day as you can and see how he reacts. Allowing him to stay home even w/ no toys or TV may still be rewarding for him and that will give him the attention he is seeking. Seperation anxiety might be it as well. Is there any other occasion this behavior occurs?

Kaytay - posted on 11/06/2008

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My kid's in 2nd grade now & we went through this big time in 1st. When I let him stay home & treated him like he was sick (which was not supposed to be enjoyable) he still preferred that over going to school. I'd look into what's bothering him at school. Usually its over bullies or the "mean" teacher. Since its the beginning of the school year it should pass (some kids have a hard time with change & 1st grades a BIG change) but if it doesn't something is emotionally wrong there. My son went to counseling eventually which helped. He was having problems with the kids & teacher in his class :( It's hard. I'm at the point where if my son doesn't have a temp. he has to go to school. If the office sends him home, then I know he's really sick. The office figures out whose sick or just homesick pretty quick.

Darlene - posted on 11/06/2008

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It sounds like separation anxiety!
My daughter used to do this on her first sleep over night at a friends house. Always the first night. She'd start crying and say she had a belly ache. The parents would call me and say she was sick and maybe I should come get her. I found that sending her to sleep overs with articles from her room it would make it easier for her. Like I cut up a piece of her baby blanket and shoved it inside her pillow case for her to reach in and feel while she lay down. Also a favorite doll for her to cuddle with helped too. Maybe giving him something in his back pack or pocket to feel while on the bus or car ride would make him feel better.

Brie - posted on 11/06/2008

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Treat him like he is sick one day and let him stay home. No playing, because he is sick, nothing to eat but soup and "sick food" because he is sick, make sure all he does all day is lay on the couch and watch videos because he is sick, meanwhile you just do what you do and he will see that it is not as fun as he imagines it in his head because Mommy is really working all day and not running around the house eating cookies and playing with all of his toys.

Leah - posted on 11/06/2008

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Does he have this every day or just school days? If everyday check to see if it is diet related...dairy products before bed for lactose intolerant kids can cause a belly ache over night and pass during the day while they are active. good luck!

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