Need Helpful Ideas on How to deal with my 9 yr old moody daughter

Allison - posted on 08/21/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My house is complete chaos. I have a 9 yr old daughter named Tayden, she's going through a rough time right now. Her birth father wants nothing to do with her and her step dad is the kind of guy who plays rough, but doesn't hug, yet he loves her just doesn't show it. He and I have been together for 3 years,but started off as childhood sweethearts, me 13 him 15. He and I have a 2 1/2 yr old girl and are expecting an unexpected baby in October.

Tayden gets into these moods where she's too cool, but seems angry at the world, I think it might be the begining of puberty, but I"m at my wits end. I'm thinking of sending her to counselling, just so she can talk to someone other than my own mother who doesn't always see eye to eye with me. Anyone got ideas, I'd love to hear them... Thanks


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Tash - posted on 09/10/2009




the best thing when i was at that age was a diary, to express all that i was feeling. so maybe if you make a big deal about one and some new pen's this might help. but if you think it is all hormonal see your doc and put her on a light pill. this will regulate her cycle and allow her to deal with the up's and downs a bit better. hope this helps, good luck :)

Allison - posted on 09/10/2009




Tayden my 9 yr old, has started asking me about puberty and when will she grow pubic hair, when will she get her period and the all time favorite sex. But the cool thing is that she and I are very comfortable talking about sex and where babies come from. She gets a bit red in the face but we laugh and giggle and I have this wicked book from Usborne about growing up/puberty so we read it together.

Tayden has her first councelling session today with this great lady who works with all kids ages kindergarden-gr 12. She's even coming to our house so they can have privacy but also so she can talk if she needs to. I like giving her the option. With number 3 coming in 7 weeks, I know that this time around I'll be making more time for Tayden and I somehow.

Some girls get pretty cruel and dealing with what's going on inside our own kids cause they don't know how to express themselves but through rage, well I'll take it as it comes. You sound like you're doing a great job.

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I would love to hear them too hun as Im in the same boat although with mine I know she is in puberty as she gets PMT something rotten and has been having her monthlys for nearly two years now.. the poor thing to look at her noone believes she is only just turned ten, we have to buy age fourteen or size 8 / 10 9UK) clithes for her.

She thinks everyone hates her and that everyone is always shouting at her, temeper tantrums in a toddler are one thing but you can't pick a 10 year old up and shove them in their pramn when they ahve a temper tantrum in the middle of the shopping centre.

Ive tried councelling and all we get its hormones... so Im too at my wits end

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