Not Listening

Crystal - posted on 07/20/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 4 yr old daughter, for the most part it has always been just her and I. She is my world, dont misunderstand that please. I am @ a loss these days. She hears what I am saying, she does not care tho. She loves the word NO!!!Simple things, such as no, u do not have to go to the neighbors to use the potty, we have 1 @ home send her in2 crying spells. Telling her she is welcome to her fit, but she just has 2 go 2 her room 4 it close the door cuz I dont want 2 be bothered by the fit since I didnt chose 2 have it, used to work. These days she seems 2 have learned alot from others @ daycare. She slams the door, lays down and kicks it from the inside, screams @ the top of her lungs, tells me shes mad @ me cuz I hurt her feelings, and continues to scream and cry. I sit @ her level and explain 2 her that we do not live @ or neighbors. ( We spend alot of time over helping her due 2 health problems that have not worked 4 her better health, only getting worse.) My daughter asks 2 go over and visit if she wants a snack even tho we have the exact same thing in our fridge, 2 go potty cuz she gets 2 use powder there, u name it, she trys 2 pull it. I can not stop helping the neighbor, she is not able 2 do even 4 herself. I am asking 4 suggestions on how 2 grab hold of the actions my tiny tike has showed her experties on tho..... I am open 2 suggestions..... Please share advice!!


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Carrie - posted on 07/23/2010




when my son wouldn't listen I would turn off the TV or music and get down on his level eye to eye and speak quietly and it was amazing who well he listened.

Carla - posted on 07/20/2010




Watch Supernanny! She uses the naughty chair for these fits. I use it for my 3 and 4 y/o grandbabies. Get ready for a fight, but you need to be consistent. Put her on the chair, set the timer for 4 minutes. She has to stay on the spot for 4 minutes. Timer doesn't start until she stays there. I take it a step further, and I don't start the timer until they are quiet. If she gets off it, put her back, re-set the timer. It will take a little time at first, but if you make her understand you are not giving in, she will comply. I also have to give my 3 y/o granddaughter 'attitude adjustments' the same way. She will start screaming and throwing things. I ask her if she needs an attitude adjustment on the naughty chair. She says no, so I say 'this is your warning'. If the behavior continues, she sits for 3 minutes. 9 times out of 10, she comes out smiling. After their time is up, I either tell them again what they did wrong, or ask them what they did wrong, have them apologize, and not this 'sorry, sorry, sorry' stuff. I have to know it's sincere. Then hugs and kisses, and off to play. I don't know how it works, but it does!

God bless, good luck, honey!

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