Please help me help our son to stop wetting the bed at night! We have tried everything. Could weight be a factor? Milk? What has worked for you?


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Audrea - posted on 12/26/2011




I have a son that is 11 and is still a bed wetter. Then again I have a 5 year old that has never wet his bed. I think it really depends on how much liquids they have before bedtime. I can control my 5 year olds consumption but not as easy with an older child. I'm sure there can also be a medical explanation.

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How old is he? Every kid is different. My girls quit wetting the bed on a regular basis at 4.5, but still had wet beds (w/ decreasing frequency) til 8.5. My son, on the other hand, is 3.75 years old, been potty trained for a year, and has only had one wet bed ever (so far, at least).

Our ped doesn't even begin to 'worry' about it (or treat it) until the kid is 8, but many kids still wet the bed later than that.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/25/2011




I personally come from a LONG line of bed wetters...I stopped wetting the bed at 12 years of age. There are a couple of factors which can contribute to bedwetting:

- genetics
- lack of bladder maturity

This isn't something he can control...please remember that. It can be an extremely sensitive point and a huge area of embarrassment for others. There are a couple things you can try:

- doctor can prescribe a medication for a few months (I am highly against medicating for this)
- there are bed wetting alarms he can wear at night
- he can try a bladder strengthing exercise (when he uses the bathroom he should pee a little stop...pee a little stop..and continue until bladder is empty)
-or just wait and he will eventually out grow it.

In the meantime, protect his mattress with a waterproof mattress protector and be patient.

Denikka - posted on 12/25/2011




Well, depending on how old your child is, it's quite possible that he just doesn't have the bladder control to go through the night. He may be a deep sleeper and doesn't wake up.

There are a few things you can try. You could wake him up in the middle of the might to go potty. If he wets the bed around the same time every night, wake him up just before then. If it's more sporadic, wake him up before you go to bed (I've noticed a lot of parents go to bed around 12, and that works out perfectly)
If he's older, 10-12 ish, there are products on the market, like underwear with liquid sensors, that have an alarm on them. At the first sign of liquid, the alarm goes off and wakes the child up so that they can make it to the bathroom.

In general, limiting liquids during the night is a good plan. Nothing to drink for at least an hour before bed. Depending on how far bedtime is from dinner, some parents even go as far as to say no liquids after dinner.

You may just have to invest in a plastic mattress cover. Most children will grow out of it by the age of 12. Boys generally take longer than girl.

Good luck :)

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