School Help!!!

Rochelle - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter is 6 1/2 and is in the frist grade. She is very smart but when it comes time to do homework she gets fidgety and anxious. If she is getting all of the answers correct, she is fine and we whiz through her homework. Yet, if she gets one wrong she completely shuts down and cant remember anything and clinches her fists and starts to cry and stops listening to me. Can anyone help me with this?


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Rachel - posted on 10/21/2009




I gave a lesson to my 4year old class in church that we all can make mistakes. I spilled stuff on the floor, pretended to trip, called kids by the wrong name on purpose, displayed pictures upside down. After each mistake I made I apologized. The lesson I wanted them to learn was that we all make mistakes, but we can correct our mistakes and fix them to be right. We shouldn't gat mad when we make mistakes. Sometimes it's ok to laugh at ourselfs when we make mistakes. The kids in the class pointed out every mistake I made and even came up with the solutions so I wouldn't make that same mistake. If your child sees you make a mistake and sees you not get upset about it and then watches you correct the mistake. Maybe have your child participate in figuring out a solution for your mistake can help as well.

Another piece of advice is when she's crying and shuts down she isn't going to listen. You sometimes have to wait for a long time for her to calm down to discuss this behavior nd ask her why she gets so worked up about making a mistake. I have a son and when he was in kindergarten he had a lot of problems. He has terrible vision problems. After seeing a specialist (a vision therepist) we learned that there is more than just a vision problem, his brain that was overcorrecting and making his eye turn in also needed to be trained in other areas. Tying his shoes and cutting with scissors were very frustrating for him, he'd cry and run away and hide... After seeing the therepist his behavior began to change. I had to learn how to work with my child so that he could learn, homework sometimes tookhours to complete. He has done better over the years, homework doesn't take that long anymore, he is getting good grades in school and is in the fifth grade now. So hang in there Rochelle and prepare yourself for the journey. Hopefully you both can make some progress

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I would try reinforcing that it is okay to get the wrong answers that is how we learn the right answer.

Kellie - posted on 10/05/2009




I had the same problem with my little girl, last year (1st. grade) was an absolute nightmare. We had all of the same issues that you are asking about. We had spelling words, a math sheet then reading book, and I found that giving her about 15 or 20 minutes in between each thing that we got through it a little easier. It took us longer to do homework but she stopped throwing fits as much. I also found that if you have to read a story every night that reading them at bedtime was more fun for her and she remembered it better.

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