Suggestions for bed wetting at 9 years old??

Shelly - posted on 11/10/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




My (almost) 9 year old is still wetting the bed. We've seen a Pediatric Urologist and even had a VCUG done. Everything is "normal" and yet it continues. We make sure she goes to the bathroom before she goes to bed, no drinks after dinner, etc... all the typical things. Any thoughts/suggestions?


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Jennie - posted on 11/12/2011




She will grow out of it. I have an almost 10 year old and an 8 year old. On occasion they wet the bed. Not as often as they used to but they do. I have found that not getting frustrated or making it an issue when they do helped. Then on the mornings they wake up dry, I tell them thats awesome. I have also seen patterns in their bed wetting. My 8 year old, when he is sick, seems to sleep heavier and wets the bed. My almost 10 year old, when he has had an extremely long day, he tends to sleep heavier as well and wet the bed.

I was a bed wetter until the 6th grade. My father was awesome and made it a point to come and wake me up in the middle of the night and set me on the toilet until I went. I sometimes still wet the bed after that. And him never making it a huge issue helped me, emotionally deal with it. Don't get discouraged, it truly is normal.

Jodie - posted on 11/11/2011




Hi Shelley. My 9 (almost 10)yo is still a bedwetter and so is my 6 yo. Like you I have had them both checked out thouroughly and all is normal. I have bought them a bedwetting alarm each. My oldest has used this alarm on and off for 12 months and still no dry nites. It is heartbreaking now to see how hard she is trying and still failing. You have to stay as positive as you can and let nature run its course. I'm afraid that no alarm or medication can really make any difference (in my case) but I will keep trying. I am surely keeping the sheet making industry in business thats for sure. Try and locate a book called "Boss of the Bladdder". It was very good for me to read and helped me understand a little better.

Jodi - posted on 11/10/2011




It sounds like one of those things where you just have to wait. most children outgrow at puberty. If not, there are meds that can be taken to help, so you could ask about those. Have you tried the bedwetting alarm?

Basically, it is just a lack of physical maturity.

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