Chanel - posted on 06/25/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am 28 years old with a set of 6 year old twin boys. I also just found out that I am 5 weeks and 2 days pregnant with my third. I do not want to terminate this pregnancy, but everyone else is looking at me like I have 2 heads. I am barely affording my twins. I just moved back in with my mother @ age 28. I mean, the list goes on and on. I have had a termination in the past and that has never left my mind or heart. I figure I can make things work. The looks of disdain are killing me though. I feel so judged. I cannot decide, and I know no one can for me. I guess I am looking for some kind of inspiration or advice. Right now, I just feel very alone and extremely sad.


Denikka - posted on 06/26/2013




I couldn't agree with Shawnn more.
It's no bodies business but yours. But if you are struggling that much with the children you have, it's not fair for them, or for you, to be stretched even thinner. If you don't think that you can go through with a termination, then adoption is definitely another fantastic option :) You can arrange it any way you want, either open or closed, so you can be involved as little or as much as you want to be. There are many great people out there looking for a beautiful baby of their own, and it's a gift to both them and the child.
The best of luck with your difficult decision :)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/26/2013




No one, absolutely NO ONE has any right to be judgmental of your position, Chanel.

However, if you feel that you won't be able to provide, would you consider adoption? The reason I ask is because before we finally conceived, we almost were at that position. We had tried for 5 years (and I'd been trying for 3 more before that) to conceive. Each failure was bitter, each miscarriage was excruciating. I'd have been so blessed to find an adoption that worked for us.

I know that you will make the best choice for yourself, your twins, and this one on the way. I want to wish you the best of luck, and say...tell the rest of 'em to Fuck off! LOL


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