What can one do to help a friend

Carol-Ann - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My neighbours have a 9-year-old boy who stutters quite badly, yet they don't seem to notice! Is there something I, as a concerned neighbour, can do or say to help him?? I'd like to add that he also has ADHD, but is not on any form of medication for this.

Thank you.


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Angie - posted on 05/05/2010




Don't say anything. If the parents, child or school are not concerned about it, you shouldn't be either. These are choices that they need to make for themselves.

Lisa - posted on 05/05/2010




Depends on how close you are. If you say something you may offend them. Do you know what they are doing for help? Do you know if they are already in a program? See, if you don't know them very well and you say something and they are doing something, you could just hurt their feelings or even piss them off.

My advice is be curious and ask. " So, what does one do for their stuttering child?” or “I have a friend who’s child stutters, what advice would you have for her?” You see, you are getting the information you need to decide if you should say anything.

Also, if you plan on saying something you should have some advice for her like, I have a friend whose child suffers and she does this, have you tried that?

It would be hurtful for her if you just inquired about her son and asked what she is doing about it. That would no doubt feel like an attack to her.

Bottom line, it is her kid! No matter how great your intentions are it is not your problem. If you have something that could help them or benefit them, then you should find a way to mention that. If not, honey stay out of her business.

I hope that helped,

Shekelia - posted on 05/04/2010




for stuttering tougue twisters, that what helped my cousin, it makes them slow down and think before they speak and with the ADHA have to see a doctor for that one

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