When did you start or when do you deem appropriate?

Sherri - posted on 05/21/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 13 yr old and an 11 yr old. We do allow them to stay home alone for a few hours at a time if we are running errands etc. However, they are not allowed at friends homes without adult supervision, not allowed at the opposite sexes house, not allowed to ride there bikes off our street as we live off a very major street. My kids get up take the bus to school, take bus home get home around 4pm do homework for a few hours, eat dinner and are in bed at 8:30pm on school nights. On weekends we don't really care as to there bedtime but they are still not out of our sight or another responsible parties sight. So my question is when did you start allowing your children to go places unattended and without adult supervision?

This is stemming from all the topics about there teenagers pregnant at 14 etc. I am floored that these kids can find the time or a place where there would not be an adult present at that age. My oldest didn't even know what sex was until 12 yrs old when we sat him down and had the talk. I thought the kid would die. He was horrified. My middle son will be 12 in Sept. and doesn't have a clue as to what sex is. Well he knows the word sex but doesn't actually know how it is performed. I don't think they are deprived. They go to movies with an adult present, go to friends houses with a parent home (I drop him off and work it out with parents ahead of time), go to school dances, are on organized sports teams etc.


Mariska - posted on 05/21/2010




I was the same way with my girls and they turned out just fine. My friends thought I was too strict but my goal was to keep them safe. My mom was like that with me and I really appreciated it because many of my friends who's parents weren't strict had babies young and didn't finish high school. When you are doubting yourself just remember they are your responsibility and you only want the best for them. You sound like you're doing a great job. Who's to say they need to grow up too fast?

Anita - posted on 05/21/2010




Keep up the good work..I think thats fantastic..not enough children have adult supervision or discipline these days! I'm sure the time will come when your boys will want to do these things unsupervised and then you will have to make the decision to let them...and trust that you have bought them up to be responsible members of society knowing right from wrong..and not bow to peer pressure. Good Luck...I am not looking forward to mine being teens.. :0)


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