When is a boy's hair too short?

Valinda - posted on 10/11/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hello everyone, my name is Valinda and I'm a newbie to this forum I am a single mom and live in Texas, where I have an 8 year old adopted black boy (not bi-racial). He is adorable and has been the greatest joy of my life. My question to you mothers of little black boys is what type of haircut do you give him? I am currently having Curtis where a "zero" cut, which is basically shaved almost clean with clippers all over his head. It looks like someone drew little dots or sketched hair on his head. After experimenting with different styles and lengths over the years I have found this to be the most manageable look for him because his hair is extremely course (nappy) and therefore nearly impossible to comb or brush with him still looking presentable. I think he looks very sharp, nice and neat if you will, and I often receive compliments from others on how cute he looks. Where I live it stays relatively warm all year so this is his standard look. I am posting this thread because recently a white mother of a bi-racial child at my son's school (I'm Hispanic) questioned my decision to cut his hair so short, in her opinion, saying he was "bald-headed" and little boys shouldn't be bald-headed. My son's teachers have no problem with it and nobody else has ever confronted me about it until now. But it made me wonder, when is a boy's hair too short? Also, based on how I described my son's haircut would you consider him bald-headed??? I thought only men who shave their heads with a razor were considered bald-headed but I guess my son could be included in this description as well, I just never thought of him like that until now. Any feedback or thoughts you can share on this would be greatly appreciated and I'm very happy to be part of this forum!


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/11/2012




I agree with Sherry. First of all, your wonderful son's heritage indicates that his hair type will be hard to manage! We fostered a bi-racial girl a few years back, and I was forever thinking she needed to brush her hair (until I met her mother, and realized...duh...bi-racial...) So I got straighteners and such for her, so that her hair would be more manageable.

But, seriously. With my own kids, the "buzz" cut was the easiest for us in the summer, because they had no hair! And in the winter, I'd let them grow it just a bit, but still essentially kept it short.

If anyone wants to criticize you, feel free to use my pet phrase "Thanks for letting me know how YOU would raise this child. Now, if you don't mind, we kind of like the way things are going for us now, so we'll keep it that way" Smile sweetly, and walk away.

Nothing bugs me more than another person jumping in with their opinions that are unsolicited, unwanted, and unwelcome! Especially if they're doing it to point out what they perceive as a flaw on your part. How rude!

Sherry - posted on 10/11/2012




if your son likes his hair the way it is, and it makes it manageable and easy for you, i say to heck with what anyone else thinks.

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