When is it ok to talk about sex with your kids?

Jessica - posted on 06/14/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




Is 6 years old too young to talk to my son about sex?


Lissa - posted on 06/14/2011




At this age I don't believe children need to know about the actual act. Is he asking questions? If for instance he is asking how you get a baby, you can say Mummy has an egg, Daddy has a seed they go together to make a baby. Then if he asks where you keep the egg and seed just tell him. Often you can answer questions like this and they are happy with that information, when they start to ask more questions you deal with them. I think honesty is the best policy when answering the questions but you don't always need to give a graphic account. If he is not asking questions then I believe this is too young, he doesn't need to know.


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Pamela - posted on 06/17/2011




It depends on if he is asking about sex. Is he asking questions about babies? Does he really need to know how the baby got in the tummy and how it comes out? Just answer his specific questions as best as you can without being too graphic. Use words you normally would, like private area or pee pee, instead of vagina and penis. My son is 8 years old and the best description I have been able to give him about how babies come out, is a visual. At many Museums of Science, they have a short movie that shows the baby crowning and the baby entering the world. We didn't watch it intentionally, but it worked out for the best. He hasn't asked any questions since!

Lissa - posted on 06/16/2011




Casey, I know what you mean about the birth part my six year old daughter thought it was appalling, my five year old son thought it was the funniest thing he had ever heard. I have not yet been asked exactly how the egg and seed make the baby but I did have to stifle a laugh when asked about where the seeds where kept. My daughter asked and before I could answer a look crossed my sons face and he said that's why boys have winkies!!

Casey - posted on 06/15/2011




hahaha, My six year old asked me about 3 months ago - Mummy how do babies get out of your tummy? She's an intelligent little mite so i said, somethimes honey they come out of your tummy in an operation, and most of the time they come out of your fanny. She said EW! thats gross, and i agreed wholeheartedly with her! The I was watching a TV show where a woman was giving birth, and She sat fascinated, and said that must really hurt eh, mummy? I said yes it does honey, but look at the beautiful baby that lady has now and how happy she is! She still hasn't asked about the 'how' and I think the above story with the seed and the egg will be the way I go on that one for now. :)

Alison - posted on 06/15/2011




I've read and heard that you answer their questions honestly and matter-of-factly--no shame or embarassment (easier said than done right). That way they're not scared of it and they'll ask you more questions in the future instead of going to someone else. But I agree that you may not have to give a full-blown explanation. My sister heard at a seminar or something that you should teach them when they're about 8.

Tara - posted on 06/15/2011




I agree. At this age, they don't need to be told anymore than what they are asking and in the simplest terms. If he presses for more information, I would just explain to him that he is young yet and when he is older, you will explain it to him.

Our daughter caught us off guard with the question "How did daddy help me get in your tummy?" when she was 5 or 6 years old (she is 7 and a half now). I just told her that we would tell her when she was older. And, lucky for us, she was fine with that, so we didn't need to explain anything.

If you choose to tell him anything, you have to be very careful on what you say and how you say it because there are certain things you don't want to hear he was repeating at school or to friends :)

Gwen - posted on 06/14/2011




I'm with Lissa. Simple is the way to go. He can always ask for more information, but you can't take it back if you give him more than he wanted :)

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