when spanking for discipline do you put over your knee or how and bare bottom or not?

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Anna - posted on 11/15/2012

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I'm a firm believer of spanking. That is what's wrong with kids now they don't get them anymore. My daughter will be 10 soon and I use a paddle like they have in schools, but not bare bottomed. I make her grab her ankles. She's too big to put over my knee. After a few of those, you won't have to use it any more just the threat of it works.

Michael - posted on 11/27/2013

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I've smacked my daughters bottom she defies me sometimes I've had her over my knee tonite

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/15/2012

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Ok, WAS sufficient...mine are 18 & 14 now

Ljearwood - posted on 03/02/2017

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Over the knee spanking with the pants down is normal where I come from. I use the belt on the bare butt and they came out fine. My girls have to take their pants and panties down for any form of punishment in the house. The belt and wooden spoon work best.

Bridget - posted on 07/12/2016

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You are very uneducated. Pulling a child's pants down and beating them bare bottom is sexual abuse. My daughter had autism. I can't tell you how difficult it was. I never once had it in me to ever hurt another individual in a sexual way.. Instead of being demanding and commanding.. try to make it fun. Kids like that. My daughter has come to the point where she no longer has signs of autism. I believe it was sue to unconditional love and constant encouragement accompanied by excitement for positive behavior. I not only feel bad for you for not being able to enjoy your children that way.. but also for them not having happy parents.
My parents were big on beating with a belt with my brother's and I's pants pulled down. We disassociated during the beatings. This led to problems with attention, disassociation, and negative emotional flashbacks that are paralyzing to an individual.
I beg you please don't hit your kids... it is so much fun to appreciate them and partly be a coach as a parent. Do you really want to beat your parents. Beating fosters depression, social anxiety, promoted violence towards oneself and others. Please don't be the one to hurt you kid that way. They deserve real love.

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Maceylynn - posted on 01/08/2018

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Me and my boyfriend both spank the older 2 children. How they are spanked depends on what they have done. Our youngest gets popped on her hand. He’s way more strict then I am with the 3 kids though because he’s in the marines. Sometimes they are spanked bare by Him normally I try to spank over pants

Tammy - posted on 11/19/2017

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No, it is not okay to "like" to spank a child. I have 2 kids both 10. I have spanked both, but never enjoyed it. I would rather never have to punish them at all. However, kids are kids and they make mistakes. They may need a spanking from time to time, but it isn't the part of parenthood I enjoy.

Lisa - posted on 10/30/2017

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I've never had to punish my daughter like this. I guess if you think you need to then only a hand should be sufficient. I don't like the idea of using anything like a belt, cane or anything like that. I was punished like this when I was little. I was rather slow as a child. And I was in care with foster parents. And I always wondered why these people who weren't even my natural parents were aloud to do this to me. I even got accused of something I knew I never did. But because I couldn't proove it I would be whopped and sent to bed. And when they found I was inecent. No one apologised or told me I was ok. They said nothing. My brother was aloud up but I wasn't so I was past caring. I still think they only had us because they were getting paid to have us.

Lisa - posted on 08/22/2017

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I have never spanked my daughter the way everyone is saying on here. I was smacked by my foster mum. And I never knew why. I was slow as a child. And she did it because she felt like it.
I still to this day remember her doing it. And still wonder what I had done to deserve it. If necessary just a slap on top of clothing. And not to make them cry. They need to know why they need it.
And I don't think teenagers should be spanked. What if the girl is having her period. That's bad enough. And boys are also very hormonal. No one should be aloud to smack any children at any time. Most adults I've seen deserve it more than our kids. But that's not aloud. So what's the difference?

Pgordon648 - posted on 08/20/2017

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Spanking should always b otk. Cause. U can see if u doing it to hard and. It. Gives them. Something to think about next time they behave. If they wana b in that postion again

Kevin - posted on 08/09/2017

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Xlbx19 - posted on 12/29/2016

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For the mom who smacks their child in private sand invites family to smack them, YOU NEED HELP. I HOPE YOUR CHILDREN ARE TAKEN FROM YOU. You are disgusting and a horrible parent!!

Silversun24210 - posted on 10/22/2016

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You have got to be kidding....right?!?!? Please tell me this is a joke!!!! I am referring to the post that says they spank their child in the privates & call over family members to join in.

Georgia - posted on 09/15/2016

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My kids are older now, but I used to spank them over my knee. I didn't agree with the idea of bare bottom spanking. I usually took down their pants and spanked them over their underwear. I didn't like to use an object, I preferred to use my hand. However, I will admit there were a couple of times that I spanked my son with a belt.

DTHW - posted on 09/01/2016

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Seriously consider other forms of discipline, not punishment. It takes a great deal of education and effort to be an effective parent and I can understand why spanking is considered to be useful. It appears to be effective, quick, easy... It is in the short run, but the psychological damage is long term and will last into adulthood. If you have problems with your teen or adult children, it can be directly linked back to child abuse and spanking qualifies. It sounds liberal and soft but the research is there. I couldn't believe it at first myself but the more I educated myself in the topic the more I am convinced that any form of physical abuse is wrong. Please consider the more difficult effortful parenting techniques that provide the best long term pay off. You will have better relationships with your children in life... Think about when you are old. There are many people rotting in nursing homes because their adult children resent them and disrespect them for reasons that can be traced back to their childhood and I'm not talking late childhood. Parenting begins at conception. It's to your benefit to bond appropriately with your offspring, your DNA. Would you hurt yourself like this? For anyone who doesn't hesitate with some guilt before or even after they inflict this pain, or who is proud of it, you may be a sociopath.

Sandra Elaine - posted on 08/26/2016

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Oops! Sorry , I meant to say there's no point in smacking a bottom unless it's completely bare(not not bare) Sandra

Sandra Elaine - posted on 08/26/2016

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When I was a teenager I got spanked (and sometimes more than spanked )over my Mum's knee right up to age 17 . Mum used to use a mixture of the paddle and a Pearson hairbrush .I had to actually at a preset time knock on the study door and specifically ask to be punished and then present my bare bottom for punishment. It was extremely humiliating but on reflection I think humiliation has to be part of the punishment otherwise punishments would be ineffective and there's no point in smacking a bottom unless it is not completely bare which means knickers MUST come down .Let this be a lesson to those permissive society circle of moms. .Regards Sandra
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YESSENIA - posted on 07/07/2016

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I AM FIRM BEILEVER IN A BARE BOTTOM SPANKING. THOSE TYPE OF SP,ANKING I DO THEM WITH LOVE. IF IS SOMETHING VERY BAD I TAKE MY KIDS TO MY ROOM AND PULL DOWN THEIR PANTS & UNDERWEAR ALL THE WAY TO THE KNEES AND THEN I TAKE OFF MY BELT AND THEN SPANK THEM. IF IS SOMETHING NOT THAT I TAKE THEM TO MY ROOM AND PUT MY KIDS ON MY LAP AND PULL DOWN THEIR PANTS & UNDERWEAR ALL THE WAY TO THE KNEES AND THEN TAKE OFF MY FLIP FLOP OFF AND THEN SPANK THEM. THE ONLY REASON I SPANK THEM THAT WAY IS BECAUSE ME AND HUSBAND GOT SPANKED LIKE THAT WHEN WE LIKE AROUND ARE KIDS AGE. ME AND MY HUSBAND GOT OUR BARE BOTTOM SPANKING FROM THE AGES OF 4-18 AND IT THAUGHT US A LESSON NOT BE BAD NO MORE.
~YESSENIA DIAZ

Magic - posted on 06/22/2016

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y would u spank a 16 and 14 year old girl naked? Otk spanking is very sexual and should never be used on anyone under the age of 18. and for a start 14 and 16 are young adult stages of a teenagers life so think about what ur doing before u get yourself into trouble for abuse

JULIA - posted on 06/22/2016

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My daughters are 16 and 14, and I spank them naked, with a paddle, between 4 and 8 swats depending on the offence.

I was always spanked naked by my mom until I was 17, and almost always with my stepdad present. The embarrassment was almost worse than the punishment.

Tony - posted on 04/02/2016

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Why are you asking us? Nobody has the right to spank you but your husband and that's only if you want it.

Tony - posted on 04/02/2016

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I agree. I think the perverts have moved in. I am not against spanking but what I am reading is quite disturbing.

Tony - posted on 04/02/2016

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in love I think that is unwise. I don't think it should ever be bare as there are sexual connotations. Although I do agree that discipline is needed sometimes I am shocked that you would use a cane on your daughter. This is the type of thing that makes people want to ban spanking.

Joseph - posted on 11/04/2015

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Some of these posts are subtle sexually-ignorant or borderline paedophilic, such as:

Alice Hall "My daughters are always spanked bare bottom & over my knee. Even though they are at an age where some may disagree with this method, I believe that if they act like young children, they get treated as such. My sister in law still spanks her 14 year old daughter this way & has no hesitation in doing it when other family members or close friends are there, as long as only females are present."
You spank a 14-year-old girl bare bottomed infront of whoever else is there? Disturbing. Regardless of your personal opinion, you're causing a humiliating private display to whomever is around to see it. A 14-year-old.. girls. Excuse me, you are screwed up.

John Pretzel "There seems to be so much nonsense written here about spanking a chikld. I am the father of a now 15 year old daughter. When she is very bad - like lying to me or my wife - she gets a good spanking from either me or my wife. It is not over the knee she is required to take down her knickers and lay on her bed over a pillow. She then gets a good hand spanking. It is not abuse it does her the world of good. Once administerd it is all forgotten."
15-year-old. Knickers down, and while 'across a pillow' as in to prop the hips and backside further.. disturbing. These ages are adults in some cultures, and always puburtal with hormones in control..


Jessica Britingham "I am for bare bottom. I do think it is humiliating but we keep it in private and I think that helps. My mom or sister might know or on occasion be the spanker (if one of them is taking care of my son) but it is a private family affair. My son acknowedges the embarrassment aspect of it and I tell him that should help him with his motivation to behave. Generally a raised eyebrow or a "does mommie need to get her helper" (the hairbrush) does the trick but sometimes he needs an actual real life memory"
Bare bottom.. Spanked in private, i.e kept hidden and generally not spoken about or seen. How awful; sublimally sexual. I mean those exact circumstances are what two consenting adults would do in a bdsm session.


Beatrizmurray430 "Laura Merideth I'm 20 years old and I have people tell me that they want to pull my pants down and spank me on my bare butt. am I too old for this or should I keep getting spanked on my bare bottom because I can be very naughty sometimes and have bad attitude do I need to get a bare bottom spanking at times at my age?
Jeffrey ganley I've been very naughty do you mind being a dad to me I need to have my pants pulled down and get a bare bottom spanking"
Honestly. If you cannot see the sexuality of that than you do not deserve to be around the bare bottoms of children. Disgusting.

And that's just page 1.

Jeffrey Ganley "When smacking my daughter's backside I take them to their room pull their pants down take off their knickers & bend them over my knee & smack their bottom"

John Hall "I was spanked on the bare bottom by my mother after I left work to attend college, ages 22 to 26 , bare with the cane in the "Assume the position "position for up to 24 strokes. Above that I was allowed underpants for up to 50 or sometimes more. It hurt like hell and was good at keeping me in line in my studies. Sitting down was another question!. Embarasing yes but valuable even more so. Mother kept this up until I left home at 32. I still think it was valuable!"
This person stayed at home until age 32. I think that speaks volumes about what spanking does to a person's psychological development to inflict pain and degrading humiliation by swatting an erogenous zone at such an early age is a type of child abuse and borderline perverse.

Janijpma "No its not abuse my son needs a good punishment he is misbehaving very badly sometimes and yes i give him 25 swats on his bare bottom he needs it"

Monsieurclaude - posted on 09/27/2015

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evan at 13-14 yo , they still need discipline on occasions

Monsieurclaude - posted on 09/27/2015

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next time , try the strap , the results are remarquable

John - posted on 07/30/2015

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There seems to be so much nonsense written here about spanking a chikld. I am the father of a now 15 year old daughter. When she is very bad - like lying to me or my wife - she gets a good spanking from either me or my wife. It is not over the knee she is required to take down her knickers and lay on her bed over a pillow. She then gets a good hand spanking. It is not abuse it does her the world of good. Once administerd it is all forgotten.

Jade - posted on 04/14/2015

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Hey im Jade i am a mother of 3 i spank them all the time. They are big trouble makers. My oldest is Kate, and today i gave her 35 smacks with a paddle. She said 'bitch' online were every one could see it, and shes only 13. I don't like that she thinks she can call another person a 'bitch' so i taught her a lesson. I did that because those things can come and bite you in the butt in the future.

Jenn - posted on 03/18/2015

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Sheila Jane you are dispicable...Making your 16 and 18 yr olds remove their skirts and panties and bend over a chair?! That is sexual assault and I hope one of them ours you and alerts CPS. I cannot even imagine the humiliation, resentment and shame they must feel. People like you absolutely make my blood run cold..

Jenn - posted on 03/18/2015

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I am sorry but to the mom who makes her preteen grab her ankles then paddles her, what the hell is wrong with you!? Why would you er subject your child to such a degrading form of punishment at that age. There is a difference between your children respecting you and fearing or loathing you. I predict that your daughter will really resent you one day. I cannot even imagine...

Vegan - posted on 03/13/2015

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Hi,i just want to say that all of you are totally messed up and that is what you will make your children. I am not a mother,i am in fact fifteen but i know alot better than all of you put together. You should never ever inflect pain on anyone especially your own child. You are teaching them that violence solves problems but it doesn't. It causes them. I'm a vegan and a pacifist. I am a non violent person. Your children will grow up hating you. Hitting kids causes fear and pain. Just an abortion .It will spare them the pain. My mum use to hit me and i wish she would die. She mentally scarred me and i will NEVER forgive her.

Tony - posted on 02/19/2015

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Because there seems to be a lot of confusion around Sarah with different views. Personally whilst I am not against spanking a child I don't think it should ever be done in the bare, especially not on a girl. Sometimes it affects a child's sexuality and so I think it is quite important.

Tony - posted on 02/19/2015

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I spanked one of my boys over the trousers only once and it did the trick. I didn't spank the other one. I couldn't see anything wrong with them so I wasn't a very good disciplinarian, even though I believed in it. Thank God they have both turned out well. They had a lot of love from us. Some have strong willed children who might well need more discipline than that. If you really love your child you will do it if it is needed. Who wants to see their children go astray.

If you are a pervert then obviously it will do a lot of damage.

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