Where is the Happy Medium? Extra Curricular Activities.

Kristin - posted on 08/19/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )




I've had both my girls in dance, this will be their 3rd year. I started my SD when she was 6 and my D when she was 3. (I was tired of trying to explain to my SD why she wasn't in any activities while my D got to try several things by that point.) Dance has been great for us. We do everything for dance, my SD's mother who has her during the week, doesn't usually do anything for it unless we request her too. Extra-curricular activities are not a big deal for my SD's mom. Where they are an important part of growing up on my side.

Now however after 2 years of ballet each, I've my SD's dance friends are starting to take more and more classes. In fact one of her friends is now in 8 different dance classes!

Here is my problem, I can probably afford to get them each another class each, but working full time, it'll be tricky. So, there is no way one I have the time for or can afford 4 or 5 and up classes for each child.

I might be biased but I think both girls are very talented young dancers already and if they want to per sue dance I want to make sure I can support that dream. But when is enough, enough? Do at the ages of 5 and 7 they need 5-8 different dance classes to help them keep up with other dancers their age. Or can I wait until they are a bit older before having to worry about that many classes?

I also have a fear of burning my children out.

I would love to hear from other dance mom’s! I want my girls to have the best chance of following their dreams with dance, but there is only so much money and time to go around?!

Thank you!


Mindi - posted on 08/19/2009




I am in a similar situation as you are. Several girls we know are in the competition dance track which requires 2-3 nights each week plus competition days. Before I entered my daughter in dance, I talked with an 18-year-old who had danced competitively since she was 5. She said she burned out at about age 16. She told me not to put my daughter in so much dance at a young age. I think you don't need so many classes at a young age, even if you are very good at it. If someone has a talent, they will be good, even without all of the classes. For example, Y.E. Yang (who just beat Tiger Woods at the PGA Championship) started golfing as a teenager. Keep this in mind as you see all of the other kids spending so many hours at the dance studio, and remember that your kids need time to just be kids too. They grow up so fast!

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