Why is it that my 4yr old child's behavior is worse than my 3yr old?


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Hallie - posted on 02/25/2010




I think thats actually very common, my son acts out if i dont make it a point to have special "Logan time" I have changed how i talk in front of them as well. If I say something about Lacie, I make sure to talk about him too. This has helped a lot because for me it was very easy to get excited about my daughters new milestones and not mention Logan in a conversation because he has always been such a good kid and is extremely independent. I love my children equally and just had to make sure they knew it too! hope thats helpful! (and just remember its nothing lasts forever your child will outgrow this sooner or later!)

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I think its part of being 4 yrs old and having her/his independence. I have a 4 yr old and she has a lot of attitude. It's also funny when she talks with these funny grown up words (Like Totally) and stuff. Let them be who they are, just monitor if it starts to get out of hand and reel them back in.

Rebecca - posted on 02/24/2010




why is it that you are comparing your kids? they are individuals and comparisons are damaging.

if you treat them as individuals, you will find that they need individual approaches to things -- strategies that are effective with one child may be counter productive for the other.

your older child might be a challenger. your younger child might be a follower, or doesn't need to challenge because the older child is doing it for them...

if you need to find better ways to communicate with your older child, i recommend a book called 'how to talk so your kids will listen and how to listen so your kids will talk'.

also, rather than labelling your older child bad, we could probably be more helpful if you focussed on more specific problems, as they are easier to address if broken into small digestible pieces.

Ala Ala - posted on 02/24/2010




it might be a reaction to having a younger sibing, shift in attention. they trigger each other's "jelous side" my 5 year old is like that too. you are not alone.... just have to explain a lot more and you need a load of patience

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