breastfeeding!

Millie - posted on 03/15/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I'm having trouble with my 2.5 year old boy..he can't stop breastfeeding and I can't stand him crying so I give in...help!!!don't know what to do?

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Millie - posted on 03/27/2010

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@Shakeisha my son will be going to school in 5months time and that's what is
worring me.
@Marina I know its not wrong to breastfeed, but I think that at his age this is too much,he'll be soon going to school and what I'm I gonna do?
@Millie what you are saying is100% true my son can't stop,the most difficult part is, at night he breastfeed more than during day time, but I think I have an idea of my own, hope its gonna work coz I tried it once.The only problem is I felt the pain more than my baby..I put hot pepper on my nipples ouch ;ope I'm gonna bear the pain this time!!!

Rebecca - posted on 03/26/2010

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Millie,
I completely understand your predicament. I have a dd who helps herself... I am going to try stopngrow this weekend so she thinks it no longer tastes good! It is good for them, but its not good for us doing it so long - the longer you let a child feed the harder it is to stop the behaviour! I have asked drs and nurses and they say children will self wean when they no longer need it! So not true!
You do need to be stronger too though, he won't cry forever, and after breastfeeding my ds to 26months, I can say our relationship only got closer after I stopped feeding him.

Good Luck!

Marina - posted on 03/24/2010

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Don't stop breastfeeding! My daughter stopped asking when she was 22 months, but I don't think it is wrong to breastfeed until the child asks for it. Breastfeeding is a way of cuddling and keep mom and child very bonded.

Shakeisha - posted on 03/24/2010

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I breastfed my son until about 2.5 and had that attachment as well, but had to stop and not give in becasue he was starting school and I felt he was getting a little too old.... it was hard to stop, you just can't give in and try to put his attention on some other food that he loves.

Millie - posted on 03/22/2010

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thank you guys for your support,right now he is sick"been sick for two days now" but I promise to to make him stop by following or trying your methods,thank you once more!!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/21/2010

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I can truely appreciate where you are coming from. My daughter exclusivly breast fed till 18 months. I had to stop because I got Mastitus. A breast infection caused by her sprouting teeth. Our end was painful for me as well. Point here is try this. Cold turkey. Just say, that he drank it all, it is all gone, good boy. Then bind your boobs (maybe with that belly support you used during pregnacy.) Replace your boob/milk with a sippy cup of ice water. Not much water... might be a problem when potty training at night but the ice is the main thing he can sip on slowly through the melting water in the sippy cup. Then just kiss/hug him & love him... remind him that he is a good boy, that he drank it all and Mommy loves him. Even if this is tough, he will learn within a week or so. You will have to be strong and have faith that you are there for him, not letting him down. Just helping him to learn something new. You guys bonded with the boob from birth, so you have bonded with something new together. You can do this and I truely support you knowing that it is very hard not to give in. But that once you can get him to overcome this... you will be so much happier. I also reccomend (after getting off the milk) asking him to hold a "lovey" My daugther still had to fall a sleep holding my boobs 6 months after stopping breast feeding. They are such comfort to her. The child must learn how to attach to something not attached to Mommy. You also probably have a tough time getting your son to go to sleep without your great boobs. So if that is the case... or if he asks to hold them more once you stop feeding, try to tell him that you have an owie and can't let him touch them. That he needs to choose his favorite toy/blankie/ etc. and when he wants to hold Mommy's boob, cuddle and hold that instead. Just continue to reinforce how proud you are of him, he is a good boy. He drank all the milk and it is all gone. That is such a good boy. Hie is big boy, etc. I promise you will make it through together and he will learn how something new. Your deep love for him is still there!

Angelfan_03 - posted on 03/20/2010

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Millie, my mother in law made her own milk that was kinda sweet and tasted similar to breastmilk and my neice and nephew really enjoyed and was a good thing for them while my sister in law was trying to stop nursing. I thnk she used milk with a little honey and sugar and warmed it up. It might be worth a shot since he doesn't like regular milk. If it is something you really wanna try I can get you the exaCT recipe

Millie - posted on 03/19/2010

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thanx to all of your support,I think I need a distraction kind of advice,I'm gonna go to a holiday for some days and when I come back I think he will forget all about the nursing,coz when it comes to milk, he never liked milk from the day he was born and its really hard to find something alternative.

Mikela - posted on 03/18/2010

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I stopped when she wasa 14 months I just gave her milk an told her that is your milk now the milk machine is closed an you are too old an just do that an if cry give the milk out the jug an say drink that you will like it better

Angelfan_03 - posted on 03/18/2010

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I have a friend that had the same problem with her daughter. And I am not sure there is an easy way to stop it but she tried distractions. Everytime her daughter wanted to nurse she would try anything to distract her from wanting to whether it be a game or food or a walk or whatever. When it came to bed time was the hardest and that took about two nights of help between her and her husband. she would have to leave the room and he would have to take over. Thankfully it only lasted a couple of nights before things got better. I know it isn't an easy task for most mom's. I wish I could have nursed longer but my daughter was very much ready to not be a baby when she stopped at 10 months.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/17/2010

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Bottom line he'll stop when you stop. If hard for you, start off slow, take away one feeding at time. He's old enough to understand what "all gone means" use those words, will pointing to your breast. He'll get it and find new ways to cuddle. It's going to be okay and the crying won't kill him or you. Be firm mom it's apart of growing up.

Beverly - posted on 03/16/2010

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My advice would be to stop giving in. As soon as he realizes that you're serious he'll stop crying. Toddlers know that crying works when you give in because they cry. Don't give in and the crying stops. Whenever my daughter plays the whine/cry game I tell her that I'll listen to her when she can talk to me in a normal voice and I walk away form her and wait for her to come to me. It works like a charm.

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