Have an almost 3 yr. old who's finally gonna be sleeping in her own room soon, any ideas?

Nicole - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My almost 3 yr. old daughter has been sleeping w/us for awhile now because of different situations, and now we're moving to a new place where she's gonna be able to. Does anyone have any ideas on how to go about this? When we have tried to put her to bed in her own room, just so we could have some relaxing time w/o kids, she throws a huge fit w/lots of screaming and will run out of her room, so we had to put a child safety doorknob lock on the inside of her door and now she'll scream and kick and hit the door, and for a lengthy time. Please Help.


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Karen - posted on 09/28/2010




My daughter used to throw fits when it came when time to go to her room...she's still not great about it but we were consistent. we would spend about 20 - 30 min with her before bed reading books and singing lullabies, then it was "Time for bed" first time she gets out we put her right back and kiss her good night, second time we remind her that it's mommy and daddy time and that she has to do good listening or the baby gate goes up. third time the gate goes up, after a while we didn't even need to threaten the gate. most nights she goes right to sleep. Also my dh and I take turns bringing her back to her room. She probably just wants to be with you, but she needs to learn to respect the boundaries you lay out for her. hope this helps a little...

I know how you feel.

Sierra - posted on 08/26/2010




I agree with both moms. When i moved in with my fiancee, i let my youngest pick out some things for her walls to let her know it was her room. She was sleeping with me at my moms house so there wasnt much in there that was hers. She's picked out glow in the dark stars for her walls and she thinks that they're a night light for her room.

Alice - posted on 08/24/2010




Claire's right on with making it "her" space. Get her as involved as you can. For my girls, when we finally moved to a house with two bedrooms we had a 3 year old and a 14 months old. I let them help me build the beds, redo the closet, paint stuff (they painted the interior of the closet and made stencil designs on the bedroom walls), and help with the window dressings and they got to arrange the furniture and pick the section of the closet that would be theirs. It worked! They loved their room. We had some hand-me-down sheets for their beds, but each one got to pick the "new" sheet each week (or more often, when there was a need to change them lol!). Now we have 3 little girls in their room, and at least once a month they "redecorate" with help, most of the time I just sort through clothes to pass them down, give them away, or bring in new hand-me-downs that fit while they rearrange the furniture. They love their room!

Keep her involved in "her" space so it's fully hers. Our 4 year old is really into art so we put a wallboard on the wall next to her bunk (she has the top) and she gets to color on it and always has some cool design up there. :)

Claire - posted on 08/24/2010




I would make it really special for her, help her to pick the decorations and if possible let her help to decorate it (my son did his own stickers). Let her pick out the bedding and have a story party in her room the first day. let her take her day nap in her room to get used to it. Hope it all works out well (for her and you!!!!)

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