What would you do????

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Lyndsay - posted on 08/25/2010

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Your mother had good intentions when she told your secret, but that doesn't make it right. You should talk to her and tell her so; if you wanted the support of your brother or sister you would've asked them. As for the other thing, about it being your fault, that's ridiculous. People with mental illnesses are still people, they are not bombs. You should not have to walk on eggshells around anybody, unwell or not, and be afraid that if you say something that doesn't agree with their current mental state you are stepping up to the firing squad.

Claire - posted on 08/22/2010

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Thank you very much for your very kind words at this time when I am hurting so much.

Alice - posted on 08/20/2010

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Claire,
I'm so sorry! No it isn't your fault! How can you be responsible for your sister's actions and words? Unfortunately, you may not be able to share secret stuff with your mum anymore if you don't want your sister to know about it. But please don't think it's your fault! The only "fault" that is yours was trusting your mum... and what girl doesn't want to trust her mum? Your mother should have kept it to herself first off, and secondly, your sister shouldn't be using personal things to hurt you in anger. The actions of others are not your fault... you can only control your actions.
My advice is find a good friend whom you can trust and share your secrets with him/her when you need a confidante. True friends (and family) don't spill their friends' painful secrets. Can your husband be your confidante? I know mine is. We have 100% trust that he won't share things I want kept secret and I don't share stuff he wants kept secret... we can cry on each others' shoulders and not worry. I pray you find someone like that for you.

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